attacked for no reason..
May 21, 2008 9:57pm CST
Ok some background: My daughter is dating/living with this guy, the father of her kids, who she fights with all the time. They bring out the worst in each other. She then comes to me to vent and ask advice. Well I have learned. I don't give her advice. I try not to even make any comment that could sound negative about him because they will inevitably make up and she will tell him or they will get in a bigger fight and she uses me against him. Lovely for me. So for the last two days she has been telling me all her troubles at home and asking me for advice on IM. I kept telling her I couldn't and I didn't dare to. I even tried to say things like you need to talk it out or you need to tell him everything. The one time I slipped was bad but it was ONE sentence amongst all kinds of advice that was positive to him. And it wasn't anything I wouldn't have said to him. Tonight I went to say hi to her on IM and he starts calling me B**** and other such words. He basically attacked me verbally and I don't even know what I did. I went through all the history in IM and I haven't said anything that could cause him to say what he was saying. I am so hurt and confused. Sorry I just had to vent somewhere. This just tore my heart out. I have separated myself from people like this. I have separated myself from this situation as much as possible. And then he just attacks me like that. What would you do?
• United States
22 May 08
Wow tough stuation! I have no idea what to do or say but i would be pissed off. Who ever he is he has no right to use this B... word to you. I also can't expect my daughter to say something about it because probably he is not normal and he can fight with your daughter too. So you better wait and see things calm down and try not to think about it. But i really didn't like this guy. Someone should teach him what respect is!!!
• United States
22 May 08
Ok so I found out that it wasn't the boyfriend. It was his crazy sister who apparently thinks I did something that I didn't even know about much less do. They have spoken with her about it and they both came online and apologized profusely to me. The boyfriend promises he will never come between she and I again because it almost killed her last time and he hates to see her suffer that way. I'm still really hurt by what was said but I'm more angry now. It does help to know that the boyfriend will not do to me again what he has done in the past. maybe he has grown up more than I was giving him credit for. thank you for your response and your kindness in my moment of freaking out. :)