Uncle wants to sleep with niece? Hell no!

@kwenge (2493)
Kenya
May 22, 2008 7:14am CST
Sandra is a 19 year old college girl. She is living with her auntie Jane in an apartment, the auntie is engaged to be married in two months and she is living with her fiancee and Sandra. Now, Jane's fiancee wants to sleep with Sandra. He is telling her that if she sleeps with him he wont tell anyone a thing and her college fee will be upto date and many many goodies will fly her way. Sandra is soo scared and she does not know what to do. She threatened to tell Jane the truth and the guy told her he is going to say that its Sandra who makes moves on him and not him who wants sandra..........Now, what should Sandra do? She wants to live with her auntie and go to college becuase all her parents died!
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8 responses
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
22 May 08
If she wants to attend college, she should live in the dorms. It's imperative to get away from the situation. He may eventually simply rape her. If she told the aunt, the aunt may not believe her. It's one word against the other. And love is blind. She'll side with her fiancee. It's time to get out and be on her own. That she is an orphan is irrelevant when it comes to her own safety.
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
22 May 08
Its her auntie who pays for her college fee and she cant just let her stay in hostels/Dorms and her house in near college. She has no place to go and there is no one else she can run to. Her aunt is innocent here and she just can't run away from her house without explaining.
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
22 May 08
There are plenty of other ways to finance a college education. No wonder the 'uncle' claims that her college will be paid for, if the aunt already pays for it. Taping a conversation would be an option. That depends on how well she can judge the aunt's reaction when confronted with the tape. The 'uncle' may still twist the situation as having been trapped by the girl. And even if the aunt kicks him out, will this sour the relationshipe between aunt and niece? Best is to try and get out of there with the explanation of needing more independence and wanting to give the soon to be newlyweds some room. At 19 it's time to find your own diggs anyway.
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
22 May 08
Now thats a good idea. Here in kenya college life is the most hectic of all. You cant work while in college.......there is no government provision for college fee........I mean you are on your own until you get a good grade then a job where you can study part time. Thanks alot for your response.
• India
24 May 08
Well, Sandra definitely can't sleep with this man! She will be crazy if she does! Moreover, the man won't stop at one session in bed. Besides, the man is too disgusting. Yuck! There is no solution without a problem. Find solid proof that the man is harassing her, and confront the aunt. Now, women in love are absolutely foolish, but the aunt might believe. If the aunt refuses to believe even when confronted with proof, I think it is time for Sandra to move. Get an apartment of her own, get help from some organization or group of friends if she is all alone. I am afraid she has no other option. Either fight or give in to the Uncle. And if she gives in to that man, I say she is lost. She will have a bigger problem on her hands. He will continue using her sexually and emotionally blackmailing her. I wish Sandra lots of luck!
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
26 May 08
Hey Positiveminded, it goes without saying that you reflect what your name means. Thanks alot for this response and your wonderful advice. I think Sandra should do excactly as you said. The aunt should also know what kind of a husband she is going to have. I know truth hurts but it saves a life. Good advice. Thanks alot.
• India
26 May 08
Hey, thanks for the best response. I am glad you liked my solution, and I wish you all the best!! Cheers!
@babyanj (131)
• Philippines
22 May 08
I think Sandra should tell her aunt. If her aunt doesn't believe her, go to someone else, a teacher, a policeman. Anyone. Maybe get a job so she can move out if things don't work out. Being raped is not an option and neither is sleeping with an almost uncle just to get to go to college.
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
23 May 08
Babyanj, Thanks for your response. I know her aunt is not going to believe her at all, love is blind u know. The only option remaining is either to go to a teacher and confide in him/her.
@babyanj (131)
• Philippines
23 May 08
In that case maybe she should try to tell a teacher or a trusted adult as soon as possible.
@freak369 (4952)
• United States
22 May 08
Tape record a conversation so there is solid proof. The aunt won't believe it because she is in "love" but I bet if she knew the truth she'd turf him so fast his head would spin.
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
22 May 08
Hi freak360, I think that is a good idea. She should get some recorder and get down to business. I know the aunt will drop him like he was hot potatoes. Thanks for your idea.
@urbandekay (18312)
24 May 08
Tape recording is a good idea but if the aunt drops the man will she still be in a position to finance the college? If she has the tape recording she has the option to use it as a lever; threatening to let the aunt here it if he does not behave. all the best urban
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
23 May 08
I hope she better leave the house, it even doesn't give a security to her anymore. When the intention had been triggered, the worst is just a matter of time, until she was 'forced' to do so. Live in the dorms is one of the solution, as long as she is far from it. I hope she decides it quickly.
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
24 May 08
Hi Aowaow, Thanks for your response. I will advice her to try and seek some help from well wishers. Living in the dorms can be expensive if you dont have a job or someone to sponsor you but its much safer than living in her aunts house with that monster.
• Philippines
24 May 08
I think she'd better tell her auntie before the fiancee does. Whether her auntie would believe her or not that's another story but the confession would cast a shadow of doubt on her soon to be uncle and with that her auntie would be watchful from then on.
@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
22 May 08
She should go get an apartment or try to get a dorm room. She should not stay in the situation that she is in. If he still tries to talk to her like that while she gets away I would personally go to the police. I hope she does the right thing.
@Raeyden (46)
• Singapore
22 May 08
If its more likely that Jane will listen to her fiancee, then run away and stay over at a friends house. She is at risk of being rape. if Jane ask why, then tell her the truth.. if there is a chance that jane will listen to sandra, tell her straight up.. she will not only save herself, she might save Jane from that perverted guy..