Loosing touch with friends after Marraige....

India
May 22, 2008 8:24pm CST
After getting married I and my better half have lost touch with our friends. I think we got more involved in setteling ourselves in the new roles and our friends were left behind. Now,after having a kid i dont even feel that they fint into the life that we lead. Most of our friends are bachlors and spinsters and they have that spending time outside the house habbit which i would love to, but cant do it with a small child with me. In a way, i don't fit into their lives anymore! They lead a carefree life and we lives with responsiblities, Not that i want to run away from responsibilities ....everybody, married or not married had to take up responsiblity sometime or the othe in life. Although we do keep in touch,but no roaming out,sitting in cafe's for hours. Has anyone of you gone thru the same, or is it that i am not trying hard enough to mingle with friend anymore??
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@youless (92271)
• Guangzhou, China
23 May 08
I feel the same. I am married and we have a child. We spend most of the time for family when we don't have to work. So the time to be with our friends become less and less. Usually we just call or email each other to keep the contact. I love China
• India
23 May 08
Very true, for us family becomes our first priority and everything else secondary. the same here too, i am in touch with friends usually through e-mail or phones. Especially when you have a child, you would not want to miss out on any thing that your child does! My son is a year old now, and he simply loves to do small things like playing with the ball,throwing it on me, walking etc which are so cute. I bet it is the same with you too.
@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
23 May 08
I think that's true in most cases, not only in marriage but also in relationship as well... I found that when I got in to my current relationship, some friends just dropped off... When 2 people are in a relationship trying to work it out, we find less time for friends... I think that's the biggest reason why loose touch with our friend, less time for a "friendship" & try to make more time for "relationship"... It's hard to keep up with both... I understand we all have few, & I mean very few, life long friends we keep in touch with no matter what but in time, we lose some friends by gaining a life partner...
• India
23 May 08
I absolutely agree with you, it is actually very difficult to stand in two boats. have to choose one, life partner OR friends. Have to sacrifice something to gain something! Cant have the best of both worlds,can we?