How do I get over this
May 26, 2008 5:18am CST
I have this problem, I guess it is low self esteem, I'm really not sure. I am 42 but I look alot younger, I am 5'1 and weigh 165 lbs. Now everyone cannot believe I weigh that much, they say "but you don't look like you weigh 165 lbs." Now I am not unnatractive, and I by no means mean this in a way to be conceded at all, because in my mind I think I look terrible. I go to get dressed and I change clothes about ten times because I think I look so FAT! Then i have an issue with my hair, that I constantly worry about, I have an obsession with it because it is thick and if I get hot or it is raining outside it gets even frizzyier than it already is and I have panick attacks over it. I don't know how to overcome these terrible thoughts about myself. I would love to lose about 20 lbs but I never feel like excersizing. What can I do to feel comfortable in my own body and love myself and not care what other people think of me. I am going to a phychiatrist to see if she can help me but I would love to have some opionions from other people. I am in a bad mood most of the time all because I think I look terrible.
• United States
26 May 08
I do have solutions for you. Go out and get the book or tape Law of Attraction first of all. My life has changed so much in such a short time just because I listened to the book on audio tape and then watched the movie on it. It is all about positive thinking and trust me I was as far down as I ever thought I would be and it totally turned me around. Then go out and get a straightener that is ceramic it is wonderful and it helps with the frizzies believe me on those days I look like I got shocked by electricity. Also there are hair products that are to smooth the hair and they really do work if you use the straightener too. As for the weight well it will come off once you get to feeling better about you inside. I do understand how you feel I have been there. I promise you though you can get past it. I am sure your phychiatrist will help too. Before you can change the outside though you need to work on the inside and start loving yourself for who you are. The book will make you feel so much better. Now a very important thing to do today. Get out your candles, go into the bathroom and start the bath water. Throw in some bubble bath and light the candles. Once the tub is filled turn off the lights so you only have candles lighting the room. Slip into the tub and relax. While laying there tell yourself I am a wonderful woman and I deserve to pamper myself like this more often. Then lay in the tub until the water is cool. You will feel better just by doing that. If you need anything please contact me. I am here for you. Sending hugs your way!