Do you believe in destiny?

I'm glad that you're such a determined person, and I know that it helps you to be determined if you believe that we all create our own destinies. I also believe this to a certain extent; I don't think you should just sit around and wait for things to happen, but sometimes things happen that just seems so right and it feels like it was the way it was meant to be. I know that might sound a bit crazy! It even sounds crazy to me as I'm not a religious person either. Just feel that there's something else out there and that the universe contains a lot more than we know about!! Thank you for your answer.

I believe God had already planned good things for us... but likewise He also gave us freewill to choose and decide for our own. Example, I have a friend who's really in love with this guy like crazy despite of how this guy treats her. She knows he's a womanizer, gets drunk almost everyday, and even beats her. Many times, i can't count... we advised her to leave him because he wasn't the one God wants her to be with... but then she decides to settle with him and live a miserable life and now she's regretting and wishing she wasn't that stupid. She said she can't leave him now especially they have kids... I know it's a sad story. I think sometimes we make our own destiny.

Oh, that's a sad story. I tend to think that if something's continuing to be that hard for her then it's not meant to be. It's a hard situation with the children and she is obviously in love with the guy as well to stay with him so long despite all the things he does. I hope one day she'll realise that she and the children deserve better than this though. Thanks for your comment.

Sounds like you believe in karma as well, with people getting what they deserve. I'm not sure if I do or not but I love the idea of it.

Thanks for your answer.

I'm sorry that life's so tough for you. I hope your luck changes soon. I guess we have to deal with all of life's blows, and keep trying or keep changing direction slightly until we get somewhere. That's all we can do. Take care.

Yes, I agree with what you're saying. I believe that some things are meant to be, but also that to a certain extent you have to make your own destiny. For exapmle, although the jobs I got came to me very easily I had to actually apply for them and go for the interviews (and do the jobs!!) etc.. You have to help destiny along sometimes! Yes, the bad things do kind of scupper the destiny theory a bit. Maybe some things are destined to happen and some are not, or else maybe even the bad things are meant to happen, but we just don't know the reason why, as we can't see the whole picture (?) I don't know. I'm not a religious person, so by rights I should believe that nothing's pre-destined and we just make our own fate, but sometimes I just can't help believing that there's a bigger picture somehow Thanks for replying.

Yes, it's hard to get your head round the idea of why bad things happen to good people, (and vice versa I suppose). I agree with you on that and can definitely sympathise. Maybe it's all part of a bigger plan that we just don't understand? That's what lots of people say anyway. How else can you explain massive disasters that happen to whole countries of people, like famine and war? Unless it is all down to chance like you say. I've also found that things seem to go in cycles and lots of bad things tend to happen at once. It's a good lesson to make the most of any upswings that happen, and enjoy it when you can!! I do tend to wonder 'why' a lot, hence this question, but I know I'll never really know the answer - just wondering what other people think. Thanks a lot for your reply.

Wow, I like that! What an interesting theory, so our destiny is completely down to us? Thanks for your insights .

Yes, reality and the coincidence argument does seem more concrete. Sometimes it just feels to me that there's something else at play, but who knows for sure! Thanks for replying.