Has something bad ever happened to your child and then everyone blamed you?

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This morning, I was trying to tell a friend about a little incident that happened with my kid. My child got hold of the hair brush and was trying to comb her hair and it got tangled into her hair. It was a big mess. It's one of those round roll brushes, not the standard kind. Really soft bristles, so it's easy to get caught in the hair. Anyway, my friend totally jumped on me and blasted me with, "How long did it take you to realize your child was crying before you did something?" And, "How could you let that happen?" As if the whole thing was my fault. I helped my kid right away, as soon as I knew she needed my help. But I guess that wasn't fast enough for my friend's taste. She just assumes that I control everything that goes on in the universe and should have been able to predict that was going to happen. As if! I dislike people that blame others for things that are not their fault. People who don't have young kids, don't know what it's like. So they blame the parent. They have no problem passing judgement on parents. And, then one day, they become parents and make all the same mistakes. And, those are the same people that give themselves a free pass when bad stuff happens. But, don't let anything happen to anyone else's kid or they'll sit in judgement. But, my point is this. There are going to be things that happen to us and our family, that we have no control over. It's not our faults. We do our best to protect our kids and still they're going to get into situations. Like when you tell your kid to be careful playing outside and yet, they fall down on the grass and get a scrape on their knee. It happens. Noone's fault. Noone should go to jail over it. Just one of those things. Life is like that. Not every event is in our immediate control. Don't you think that's true? So, why is it assumed to be the mom's fault when something happens to the kid?