How do you stay close to your spouse, when you don't have the same schedule?

United States
May 31, 2008 10:06am CST
How do you stay close to your spouse or boyfriend, if you don't see them too often? Do you write love notes? Do you call them at work? What are your tips for keeping a long distance relationship, healthy and strong? My spouse and I have such drastically different schedules that we can't often get in the same room to talk about important stuff. Since he works the late shift, he has to sleep while I'm awake and spending time with our daughter. We try our best to keep lines of communication open. So, we speak by cell phone often, while he is at work. It helps us clear up lots of little misunderstandings. When arguments arise, we try to work them out, even if it's just over the phone. Sometimes it's easier working out a disagreement over the phone. There's much more objectivity. We don't let things fester and become a big thing. What's your best tip for keeping a long distance relationship from going sour?
1 response
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
31 May 08
No matter what the schedule is beautyqueen it is healthy to have a sit down and talk face to face. Remember a person can say anything over a phone/computer. I think it is unhealthy for not having face to face communication in a relationship. They say that time is money, but to me money can also ruin a good thing. Family time is very important. A former boss of mine always stress these three main thing. (1) God (2) Family and (3) work. Long distance relationships has always have mistrust in it. Even if you tell yourself that you trust there is that lingering feeling that everything is not right. Arguments always arise in relationship but it is how you handle it. As long as there is respect then you can work it out.
• United States
31 May 08
So true! Thank you for the sage advice.