My problem with my bf and me
@chunshuibingdou (208)
China
June 1, 2008 12:17pm CST
We've kept relationship for almost four years, and we were envied by many friends though we can meet only once a month.We love each other deeply and care very much.
But recently we haven't met for more than two months for some reason,and I began to get used to being alone.I don't want to be disturbed by him,hey I uses "disturb"to discribe his loving words which were expected in the past.And I don't want to meet him,because I feel so good to stay at home and being alone.
As you can imagine he protested and our communication became unhappy.My sister warned me that if such situation continues he may leave me,but i don't want to leave him,I just want no disturbing.Such things never happened ni the past,how should i do?
Does it sound strange? Do you ever have such feeling? Could you pls tell me some suggetions? I want to change such situation.
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7 responses
@xiaojing1226 (236)
• China
5 Jun 08
What happned to you?why do yo like being alone?You should considerate the real reason of these problems firstly,i think.
maybe it is result from the too long separation of you,you need adjust yourself and communicat with your boyfriend,if you still love him.
maybe you don't like being alone in your heart,you just get annoyed with the condition under you,you want to live him together everyday.......
so don't unhappu any more,adjust,adjust,adjust,anything will go on well......
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@chunshuibingdou (208)
• China
5 Jun 08
Thank you so much for your helpful suggstions:)
I've been trying to communicate more with my bf, I tried to find some topics we may both intereste in and things goes well:) What's more,I've been finding time to meet him and to see the real feeling in my heart.
Thanks and I really appreciate your views:)
Have a nice day:)
@chej18 (915)
• United States
1 Jun 08
yes i understand what's your feelings coz i got the same sometimes that i want to be alone.But you have to tell him that you want sometime for your self.I got someone but then it did'nt went good.He always asked me if he can see me or go to the mall have fun together or eat somewhere else but everytime i said: I have something to do.I really like this guy but then as some other person said i am a loner i rather enjoy the film at home than to go out.I hate going every weekend atleast i enjoy going out but not everyweek.And he loves to go out hanging out w/ friends and drink socially.After a while he told me it is my fault that he gave attention to a girl who really like him.Now our relationship is finish..
@chunshuibingdou (208)
• China
2 Jun 08
Im so sorry to hear that your relation finished.
Indeed we share the same feeling,we like them in heart,but prefer not to hang out with them.
Just be happy and live in the way you want.
Thank you for respond:)
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
5 Jun 08
that is not good, if you want a relationship you have to see him sometimes, you can't have it both ways,
decide if you want him or you don't.
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@chunshuibingdou (208)
• China
5 Jun 08
I want him and I've been making effort,and to some extent,that is effective.
Things began to become better.
Thank you for ur view:)
@shamashemnice (482)
• Egypt
1 Jun 08
you can talk to him quietly to solve th problem of what he wants and actual without hesitation
@chunshuibingdou (208)
• China
1 Jun 08
Actually i even don't want to talk about this with him,or maybe I can say i don't want to talk to him.
Thank you for your suggestion:)
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@Power_of_Ganda (217)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
Honestly I don't really understand of why the two of you must not meet each other personally, yeah for some reason but why not try to communicate to clarify the situation that is happening right now? I think it is time for you to tell the truth about your feelings especially when you are alone. It is hard to assume or to make a decision which is you don't really know if that is right or wrong.
@chunshuibingdou (208)
• China
5 Jun 08
Yes,I agree with you:)
Thank you for ur comment and have a nice day:)
@fightingspiri3 (51)
• India
1 Jun 08
yes I think I am gonna experience that feeling cause my GF is gonna marry some one else on December. So I should stop seeing her and talking to her after december
@chunshuibingdou (208)
• China
2 Jun 08
Hey thank you for your comment,but I don't think we share the same feeling.
I have no idea about why your bf marry another,anyway Im sorry to hear that.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
5 Jun 08
I think you need to explain to your boyfriend that while you want to be with him, you want to have time to yourself too. My husband works in the USA, and I live in Canada. We spend up to two months apart sometimes, and then get together for a couple of months. This works well or us, because as well as being together, we like being alone too.
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@chunshuibingdou (208)
• China
5 Jun 08
It's so goog that you can live with ur husband and also have your own time,while I think living apart even after marriage is sometimes difficult.Luckily,you live together more than being alone.
Thank you for ur responce and share ur experiences with us:)
