How do I handle my introvert child?

@Rintis (646)
India
June 4, 2008 12:49am CST
My 4 year old son has suddenly started behaving in a different manner. He was always outgoing, getting along with other children and people. Suddenly he does not want to mingle with people and other children. He keeps to himself and has become extremly shy and leaves my side. I hope it is not a cause of worry. Is this how most of the 4 year olds behave.
4 responses
@jashley1 (746)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Hmm. I would definately keep the lines of communication open. If your child was once social and outgoing - it seems like something must have happened to make him not feel comfortable socializing any longer. Have you spoken with him about everything? I would definately do so. If my 4 year old suddenly was like that, I would be very concerned - this doesn't seem like one of those "phase" type things.
@Rintis (646)
• India
5 Jun 08
Yes, I did talk to him about it but he did not mention anything unusual. One thing I can say is that this behaviour started somewhere when his father had to go outstation regarding work. Is this because he misses his father?
• United States
5 Jun 08
I wouldn't worry too much yet children do go through phases.I would watch and see if other behaviors change as well,like is he more angry then he used to be,or more tearful.His father being gone may have triggered this,how does a 4 year old know how to interpret his father being gone,you never know what he is thinking about it and what he might be deciding for himself is why his father is gone.All he really knows is he misses him and wants him home.I would just give him more attention for now and perhaps set up some play dates for him to play with children his own age. Good luck I hope everything works out for you and him. Jas
@nupats (3564)
• India
4 Jun 08
dont worry bcoz for all u know this maybe a passing phase..i also have athree year old..u try calling some of ur friends kids home for playing or spending the day with him maybe slowly he will again start enjoying himself in their company, u can also enroll him in some activity classes where he can interact with other children...it is not at anything to worry abt but curtail it before it comes in his routine...take care..give my love to ur son..
@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Have there been any significant changes in your child's life? If your child didn't act this way before, then I would think that maybe something has caused his behavior to change. It doesn't matter how most 4-year-olds behave. It matters that your son's behavior has changed from his previous behavior. I would suggest talking to him. If that doesn't work, I would think about taking him to a child psychologist.