Are you a good listener to your husband?
@celestial052506 (2914)
Philippines
June 4, 2008 11:03am CST
Most often our husbands are tired from work, Has having a lot of stress from their daily encounters as part of their job. How do you handle when they arrive grumbling, upset about the thingfs they experience during the day?
Are you going to challenge them more? Or Do you just listen and comfort them? Oh!! there are other wives who would give advice to their husband of what to do? But those unsolicited advice sometimes would just add to their misery.
Are you a good lister? How did you handle that?
Would you do some of the things I mentioned?
Just want some techniques you find it good to share. Thanks...
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5 responses
@msedge (4011)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I feel so lucky that my husband never show upset.Sometimes there are things that he should be upset of but he never does.He tries to understand everything.As a wife i know there are times that he feel tired and disappointed and i always there to comfort him by letting him express what he felt and try to cheer him up.I try to listen whatever his plans, dreams, disappointments and problems because we always share everything in life.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Oh you are lucky to have a patient and understanding hubby. great!!!!
@wrangel15 (1443)
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
Work during the day can be really tiring and stressful. In those times it is really helpful to have someone listen to you. It is a very good activity to lessen stress by pouring the things in your heart. There are also times when you really don't have to give an advice. Listening and being sincere about it is very helpful.
It may be an additional effort to some while others already have the skills to listen from other's burdens but it is worth it. Just remember that the time you alloted in listening is just for him. A little sacrifice gives a lot of help to a stressed working person. :)
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@wrangel15 (1443)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
Thanks for the best response. :) It made the start of a good day today.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Depending on what he's miserable about I'll sometimes give him advice and sometimes all thats needed is for me to listen so he can vent..I always have a feel of what his mood will be like long before he gets home though because I usually talk to him at least once during the day.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
Oh!! that's sweet. I like that talking at least once each day. I can see that youhave a close relationship with your husband.
Thanks for sharing this.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Well he is not yet my husband, he's my fiance. If I see my fiance is stressed about something I will try to get him to talk to me, I will offer him some of his favorite treats and a shoulder to lean on. Sometimes that's all you need.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
wow!! you are very sweet!! I'm sure it would help to ease his stress..Good!!
@jashley1 (746)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I definately try to be a great listener to my husband. I think it's really important to have great communication in a marriage and in order to do that you have to feel comfortable communicating with your spouse - how can you do that if the other is not a good listener? In my situation we are Christians so it's a little different. Yes, I take the time to listen and hear out my husband, but the encouragement is really done according to the Word. We both have a great strong relationship with Christ, so we have to encourage each other in the Lord, and no matter what God will work it out.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Oh!! that is very good to hear. Yes, it's quite different when we Christians. thanks for sharing your thoughts.
