Customer looks at me and says....
By Carolyn63
@Carolyn63 (1403)
United States
June 4, 2008 11:46am CST
So a customer comes into the shop to make an appointment for auto repairs. It's hot here in this metal building in Alabama so I am wearing shorts and some of my tattoos are visible. He looks at me and says "God didn't bring you into this world with tattoos." I show him one of an arrowhead with a face and footprint in it. I explain that the arrowhead stands for truth, therefore, the tattoo represents facing truth and walking in truth. His response is, well, you know that but why put it there?
First thing is, religion isn't about tattoos, jewelry, clothing, etc. I don't care what religion you are. I hope you have a relationship with the Divine but that is your business. Secondly, my physical body isn't the one in question with the Divine, it's my spiritual body. You shouldn't be judging me by my appearance. Look at my heart, my mind, my spirit. The tattoos aren't for you. They are for me.
Some people get tattoos to cover scars on their bodies. Some people get them because they think they make them look tough. I'm expressing myself. I'm memorializing others. How does it hurt you?
How do you handle people judging you for your tattoos?
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4 responses
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
6 Jun 08
hello carolyn,
i'll be honest with you i am not a fan of tattoo as i see it dirty but i dont mind if someone have it, i just dont like it with me same thing with make-up, extra piercing and excessive jewelries - it's just not my personality.
my brother have a tattoo, before he have it i am very much against it coz i know a lot of people loves to judge and if he dreams to work as a manager he will will have a hard time finding a boss or a company who will respect his capabilities and not his physical attribute TRUTH is our world based a lot of their judgment from what they see and what the person really is.
my hubby dont like it either he thinks a kid who have a tattoo is a bit confused or wants to be part of the group, i told him some wants it as their form of expressing themselves and or they see it as an art .
he is ok with it, as long as it is not me and him or our future kid (he said they are free to do whatever they want to be/do when they get out of the house and live their own - which i agree wholeheartedly) i prefer it that way anyway.
back to your story,
i agree with you that nobody has the right to tell anybody what they have to do nor judge them base on what they see and not what the person really is.
it is not fair.
it is such a sad thing coz that mentality goes with those convicted people who get freed over time.
whether they are guilty or not of the crime BECAUSE they came out of prison they are no longer welcome to the real world and they hardly get a decent job.
it is just not fair.
i dont get it, i hate how our world works and it is sad coz often it is the religion and our society who is doing the judging and we dont see how it affects the other's lives.
i have been judge in my life growing up coz i dont have a father and my mom is not married when she have us BUT that doesnt describe us a person nor as a human coz if they will only look on us deeply they will see the beauty and kindness not others have BUT we are labeled as BAD despite all that.
anyway, people will judge the other be they perfect or not coz they are just not happy in life and they cannot accept others are happy with theirs.
takecare
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Yes, you are right, people love to judge others rather than look at their own issues.
I admit, I am judgemental too, but not over appearance, over serious issues. An example, my birth mother came into my life a few years ago. She couldn't bring herself to be honest and open. One of the things she told me bit her in the butt. She told me a lie about my sister. The truth of the matter was that Mom's hubby at the time had raped and molested my sister for years and mother knew! For that, I judged her. See, the brother I was raised with molested me. Mother told me when we got together how sorry she was for what I endured. Well, that was a big slap in the face. Rather than be honest, she got mad at my siblings for telling me. She couldn't understand why I would be talking to them in the first place. Huh?
Now, you mentioned the prison system. Well, that dear brother that messed with me is in prison. He molested his own children. And personally, I hope he never gets out. I know him. He will do it again. He got away with it for years. I don't want him in society, especially near children.
Basically, hypocrasy drives me nuts. But harming innocents really drives me nuts.
I do know what you mean though. I agree that once you've done your time you should be allowed a life. Unless do the above mentioned or are a mass murderer.
Hugs,
LLA
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Well, nekkid might be a bit cooler at the moment but then the customers would freak when they saw how many tattoos I have, lol.
My father in law hates tattoos. His skin actually crawls if you even say the word.
Most customers don't say anything. A few have asked about a few of the tattoos.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
4 Jun 08
I love the last response and it is so true! I don't have any tatoos so I can't really respond to that part of you question but I just wanted to show my support of your opinion.
And maybe this is going to sound really stupid...just remember I know nothing about getting tatoos, which is why I'm asking LOL...can they really cover scars? I had an issue that left scars and it makes it hard to find shirts that don't expose them...and swim suits are entirely out so I've often considered a nice tatoo to cover them but wasn't sure it would work.
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Sweetie, I learned about using tattoos to cover scars from a show on tv. Woman whom had masectomies were getting tattoos so instead of seeing something ugly, there was something beautiful for them to see. Since then, watching these tattoo shows, I've seen them cover burn scars and more. I can't imagine how it feels though. Different parts of the body are more sensitive. My upper thigh where I have stretch marks felt a bit odd, but the most uncomfortable one for me was an arm band. It wasn't the tattoing, it was the nerves located there that run up your armpit. They tingled for a few days. I will tell you this, the meatier the body part, the more comfortable it is. Bony places are more uncomfortable.
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
5 Jun 08
Draggie..I won't apologise for that idiot since he showed what kind of person he was for his comments to you..but you know how i feel about you and love you as you are..scales and drool..LOL..
Now i don't have tattoo's and don't feel i need them, but i have 4 of my 5 children that have them and would never put them down for their expressions and individuality.
Love you!
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Hiya Rose. I can't help but giggle. Can you imagine someone reading that I have scales and that I drool not knowing anything about me. That is just too funny! But ya know what, I'm not gonna explain. Let them scratch their heads and wonder, lol.
Barry didn't have any tattoos at all when we met. He doesn't have as many as I do, but he does have several. He asked his baby sister for a specific photo of his Mom the other day. He wants to get a portrait tattoo of her. Regina thought that was so sweet. Mind you, no tattoos for her. I don't know the photo he is referring to so I can't wait to see it.
Big hugs and dragon drool kisses!
