my grand father has cancer

United States
June 5, 2008 9:16pm CST
My grandfather has just been diagnosed with cancer. He is ninety years old. I think chemo would be torture on him because he is a on the go person and i feel like if he takes chemo it will cause him to be weak and not able to do anything for any amount of time. plus theres the factor of his age. He has had a good life I have tried to explain this to my mother but she wont listen. Am i wrong for feeling this way? Please remember my family in your prayers
6 responses
@salonga (28050)
• Philippines
7 Jun 08
I'm so sad to hear such kind of stories and I could just only pray for your grandfather. I think you are right, chemo is no longer advisable at his age. So many people who went through the pain but were not saved. May I suggest if you will not mind... that you try the alternative medicine... there are a number of proven success stories of people who were healed by cleansing diet and herbal medicine, why not give it a try?
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thank you all so much for your kind words and advice. It is nice to hear from people who have or are experiencing the same thing. God bless you all.
@iamnes (325)
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
i don't think you're wrong in thinking this way, you are entitled to be concern for him and you just want what you think is best for him. i am so sorry to hear about your grandfather but God has his reasons. i also think chemo will be a great torture for him, i think you should just let him enjoy more of his time these days with all of you and you should show him how much he greatly influenced your lives, he'll be happy and contented with his life. ask for God's enlightenment and guidance that your grandfather and your family will surpass this challenge successfully. let him live his days happily with all of you instead of being stuck in bed with chemo. i;m sure he'll be happier with having all of you around with him in his activities! God bless you!
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
when i first learned that my grandfather had cancer, i cried myself to sleep. i told my aunt not to let him undergo chemo coz it will only make him weak. i based this on my dad's experience. i was 17 and he was 39. he didnt make it. i was so devastated. my grandfather had lung cancer. i guess i was more sad because i spent all my life with him and my grandmother. they raised me and my siblings. it was as if i had lost it. i researched for cure, alternative medicine, ozone and what not. he underwent chemo not to get well, but to ease the pain. he went peacefully.. im sorry to share this, its just that this is a very sensitive topic for me. whenever i hear about somebody who has this.. i get really sad.. i guess its but normal to feel that way, coz you love your grandfather. please be strong. we are all praying for his recovery.
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
6 Jun 08
sorry to hear about that but in your eakest point pray for prayer is the key to every thing. at his age i dont think chemo would be good for him. ask God to open your mothers eyes to see the different possibles of what could happen if takes chemo or not.your not wrong to feel this way. may God riches blessings go with you and your family. the Lord knows best jus ask and he will provide your answers.
@jahrock (111)
6 Jun 08
You have my best wishes that you find the strength to help your family thru this. Those of us on chemotherapy will all tell you that it won't necessarily make him weak and unable to do things, but yes, chemo affects the immune system, making it far easier to sucumb to things like a common cold, and at his age that won't be the easiest thing to cope with. On the other hand, cancer care is now a very sophisticated part of the medical scenario, and the doctors involved will certainly give you and the family the best advice for your grandfather's treatment. They will give full consideration to his age and general state of health, and probably the most interesting thing is that their primary objective is always to help the patient achieve the most comfortable life condition during and after treatment. So I guess my advice is really.....Have faith!
@Darkwing (21588)
6 Jun 08
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this news of your grandfather, my friend, and I will most certainly keep him and your family in my prayers. The chemo won't necessarily make him to weak to carry on doing the things he does, but there is a time about a couple of weeks after the therapy that a patient's immune system goes down, and they are prone to colds, flu and pneuomonia. These can be times when they become quite weakened but if your grandfather has a good outlook and believes he can beat this and is able to carry on doing what he likes most... he may be able to hold it off for quite a time. Chemo and treatments are improving all the time, so I will certainly send energies and prayers his way, and to the rest of your family and yourself, that you can find the strength to keep faith during this trying time. Brightest Blessings come with heartfelt wishes to you all. xx