American men prefer being single to a bad marriage

obviously....i agree to you.....we here marry to continue to live with them forever but not to just move in to house ....we regard....it as complete bond of our lives...

Different culture, different method of life-style, and a multitude of different decision making. Mostly teenager in USA had been lived alone independently, but not in Asian, this is just one of the example. The freedom they gain may also contribute the psychology's effect of someone. Those who had tasted freedom longer than those who lives bound in family's rule is different in describing the meaning of a life-sharing. Those who lives longer independently may have imbued themselves with the comfort that it gives. That's why sooner they try to adapt for the life-sharing, actually they need more times to tolerate for those what had been rejected in their freedom lives. Some still apply the independent-lifestyle in the marriage, which is not valid for every aspect. But due to the length of live for self, it might need a very strong will to accept the disadvantages side of life-sharing. On the contrary, those who lives in family, were imbued to learn the art of patience. It's not an easy task to do, many of them yet surrender then run away from this and try to seek the freedom like the above life-style. But yet, both life-style, length of family's devotion and sort of aspect in someone's growth may affect on how this person will treat the life-sharing he/she will have in the future. Both life-style yet has each own advantages and disadvantages. In Asian, if a couple was in the gate of separation. There are just too many person around that will try to strengthen back their relationship. They gain emotional support from people around them; parents, neighbors, relatives, friends, etc. That's what made a difference in the decision making of couple in USA and in Asian. Couple in USA may use counseling, psychologist, or sort of. But the support must be granted with a fee, the emotional support will be not as heavy as from our relative or parents. That's why I always mentioned, no matter how bad our parents are, but we can't neglect them, sometimes we need their support. They, just a few is not, are better for their decision making. The generation before them is more better. Due to the length of their experience. But many of them, prefer being swayed alone by their own "immature" decision making. This is what had happened in our generation, but it's rare in generation above us. The revolution had made a huge gap between us and our parents, as you can see the result it brings, we can't expect how horrible it is, when it's the turn of our generation with our kid's one. Personally, I never feel happy of Woman Emancipation Act. It doesn't change to any better life aspect, because in other side we must face a additional of greater emotional thirst. Our emotional fulfillment was lending too much by spending the hours for earning money outside. We are facing an emotional changing role. From our world to man's world, which is not applicable if it's not accompany by our man. My mother had told me once, that our generation had faded a deed. A deed that had been applied well in their generation, -Patience-. She said, "The Revolution didn't change anything. Maybe you (me) may gain a chance in their field (job), but they (men) are still the same, in my (her) era, some husbands were also cheating. But now it's still the same, they also cheats in your era. Yet the revolution only adds the emotional pressure to our kind, but doesn't stop them (men) from cheating." Their marriage was a successful sample, they really live in their own world. Women had their times fulfilling their emotional needs at home, talking to neighbor's wife, go to market, and what the most supported is their commuting rules that procreated a traditional of exiling "emotionally" of the man or woman who is cheating. The traditional that makes them to think hundreds time to cheat and prevent them from the chance of cheating. The woman is 'safe' at home without a temptation of cheating chance because of working in work/job field, or start to compare his husband with her partner at office. Past time, in job's field was only consisted of man, in this case, the chance of a man to flirt a woman yet was none to zero. Nowadays, people think the revolution is giving them a pleasure of new breath; the freedom. But they don't realize, changing means change in all side, not only the good side, but it also means those new problems will be appeared unconditionally. When they had realized that, it's already too late. The result had had happened, divorce. There are too much I would like to share in here, but it won't be adequate to write in here. "The green is not always green."