How can you find true friends these days?
By latoyahall
@latoyahall (835)
United States
June 8, 2008 3:52pm CST
I am so tired of fair weather friends. It seems the only time people want to hang out anymore is when I have something they want. That is why I don't have many friends. Does anyone have any thoughts on this topic. I just seem to remember the days of "Best friends til the end", but those days are long gone.
4 responses
@ynamorata (51)
• Philippines
13 Jun 08
True friends come effortlessly, that's what i learned from my experience. I was and i'm still a true friend until i reached my end point. I was the one who always reached out to them, I made myself 24/7 availabe and didn't mind the physical exhaustion that I felt and received nothing in return. I got tired so I stopped expecting and doing those for them, that's where I started to apprreciate myself first that made them realised how sincere I am as a person and as a friend. They said they missed me so now they're doing their part as a friend to me i guess, so don't worry for sure most of them will realise how true you are as a friend, just learn to appreciate yourself first.
@jimonokata (560)
• India
17 Jun 08
if you have found me..lolz..its in testing times that u come to know.
@shmeedia (1044)
• Canada
8 Jun 08
i love you for posting this discussion!!!!
i feel the same way! i made a new years resolution 2 years ago to stop chasing people who don't want to make their own effort to remain friends.
when they need me they sure know how to find me. yet *I* get mouthed off to if *I* don't make the effort to keep in touch. they say 'she knows my phone number' or 'she knows my email address'! yeah but it kinda works in reverse too. if i am doing all teh effort and you give nothing back, i will stop wanting to put in so much energy!
friendship is supposed to be a 2 way street not a one-way high traffic lot!
i have lost many 'bff's' (that should stand for 'best foolish friends') for no real reason other then lack of interest on their end.
the 'real' friends do come out of the woodwork when/if you are in a bad situation though. those are the situations where you find out who your real friends are.
@CardboardWaves (346)
• United States
14 Jun 08
I totally agree with you there. I try to keep in touch with all my friends. There are some that like you said only want to be friends when they want something. I stop talking to a friend a few months back because of that. I'm sorry, but I'm not putting 100% if your not putting in none. Alot of people these days are takers and users instead of givers. We all just have to be picky before we can really call someone a friend. I'm glad I find some goods ones!
