Am I right???
@janiceancajas (227)
Philippines
June 10, 2008 3:47am CST
I have a great friend since high school until college. I always in her side when she needed me.Both of us enjoy and share our dreams together. And promise that we still be friends until we grow old. I considered her as my best friend but during our college days, she found a new friend and get along with that gurl more than we do.When I needed her, she was not there. There were times they go out without me which left me heartaches. After graduation my friend invited me to her wedding but it seems that am just a casual friend. And now she had a baby, only her friend called me and invited me to her child baptism, its very painful. I thought that she's happy now and no longer needed me. I decided to cut off our communication. I cancell all her calls nor visit. I dont like to be her friend anymore. Is it right doing it???I think she hates me too for not returning her calls...do she has the right also of hating me???
If you have a friend like that are you going to do the same???or are you going to fight for your friendship and demand an explanation why and what happened??
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13 responses
@honeybeemay (371)
• Netherlands
10 Jun 08
I think you're right. And I can imagine how you feel. But isn't it more nicer if you talk to her about how you feel? That's what I did with my friend who left me because she found another "me"..lol..And i know exactly how you feel...
I confronted her and we talked, and it was solved but our friendship not the same as before anymore but yeah, at least I opened to her how I felt.. and no hurt feelings...
So, why talk about it and see how she will react. It's not your fault you know. Good luck!~May~
@janiceancajas (227)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
Thanks honey, you are also right. We should talk it over but, not for now maybe, soon when pain and little anger will no longer in my heart. I might say bad things to her and will regret it lifetime.
@optimisticgrl23 (397)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I do not know the whole situation but is it possible that she is unaware of how she is making you feel. If she has tried calling you, I think it is clear that she does still want to communicate with you, maybe just not on the same level as before. Even the strongest friendship have weak moments and lose intensity after a while. Why does one person have to limit themselves to only one best friend. I think that you should at least talk to her and express how you feel. I am sure that you can work out your problems and still remain friends, even if you are not as close as you were before. It is always better to a polite acquaintance instead of an angry enemy.
@janiceancajas (227)
• Philippines
12 Jun 08
Hi gurl, you are right. I have to talk about it with her. These days I made a lot of friends and it is more fun. Thanks a lot for the advise.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 08
maybe its only you who considered the notion of being friends forever? or the reverse? maybe you should talk it out with her..asking some questions that been troubling you for a long time and tell her about those instances where you were hurt thru her coldness and if she dont want your friendship anymore then maybe its time to close the book..
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
I think in friendship one should never be envious. Each party should understand each other. You know, there might be some reasons why you dont go out together more often. Might be time differences. They might have common extra or free time thats why they go out more often.
Though you are the one who knows the real reason and you are the best person to decide what is the best thing to do. But I prefer that you talk, if she's calling you that means you are important to her. If you treasure the friendship then go find ways to mend everything.
Good luck!
@janiceancajas (227)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
Exactly long, I should not envy with her friendship with other girl. Thanks also to her coz I learned a lesson from her that never put 99% of my time and trust to any relationship because everything will change.Also never expect someone to do the same way. I will call her soon and talk if we can save the friendship that we build for 10 years
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
11 Jun 08
I guess you just did the right thing. If you feel your friend doesn't need you anymore, there is no more reason you stuck with her. But we should remember that all things change. Especially the teenagers, most people of that ages promise something that they never know the sincerity of their feelings...
@baleleng2008 (917)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Actions speaks louder than words janice so if you really think she doesn't want you to be her friend don't waste your time,but bcoz she's your long time friend I think my suggestions is better you talk to her personally.Tell her what's inside your mind.Then whatver her reasons that's the time you decide if you still wanna be friend to her or not.
Anyway janice theres a lot of people around you who willing to be your bestfriend.
Goodluck!
Goodluck!@janiceancajas (227)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
Hi baleleng, your 100% correct. I should not center my attention to only one person. These days, I realized that many people who are also pleasant to be friend with. My circle of friends gets bigger hehehe. Thanks to you...
@janiceancajas (227)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
Thanks...thanks... thanks... I also have to appreciate friends I have...
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
11 Jun 08
She is insensitive to not know what she has done to you. I would tell her in some way, by letter possibly...how you feel about what she has done. There are so many people today who do what she has done. You are not alone.
@sriki2526 (179)
• India
10 Jun 08
Life is not attached to a single persons.. as the time goes on, a person finds new circles and new environment which he/she need to get adopted. Its very bad that she has ignored her best friend. I know the feeling when our best friends ignores us.. and we get to know the information about him/her from a third person..
As you say that she was your great friend, give her only more opportunity to strengthen the relationship.. If she still continues the same.. then break it out.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
For me, I will still be there for her, after all, we have been friends for a long time. She may have hurt me before but that doesn't mean that I have to do the same thing to her... THere is always room for forgiveness and start a new beginning with her... you know.. just give both of us a chance... cheers!
@fumi_masaki (107)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
OMG! this is just like what happened to me 5mos ago!!! i know what you feel! at those times, i feel so betrayed. She promised me that we will be bestfriends forever. suddenly, she became cold to me, and found new sets of friends and didn't bothered to care for me. When i needed her, she wasn't there! then, i ended it when we had a chance to talk and it didn't work out, i was so pissed that i told her, i don't even want to be her friend, when she told me that we shouldn't be bestfriends anymore just friends! It hurts so much at that time! I wanted to take revenge and hurt her even more! but the more i think about it, i'm the one who's getting hurt. But now, i overcome it and i feel happy now, maybe it's meant to be that we broke up. In that way, we could see and appreciate the people around us, that it isn't just about me and her only. That it is time to explore new environment..
@izzuyasha (348)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 08
If I were you I would do the same thing too.Why bother if she does'nt need you?But that is just my immature opinion.
@janiceancajas (227)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
Your opinion is not immature to me. I just realized that what I did is the right thing. Why waste my time with people doesnt deserve my trust and my friendship. Thanks a lot.
