Do your online friends know the "real you"?

United States
June 10, 2008 4:26pm CST
How does your online personna differ from your offline real life? Are you drastically different or bolder when you are online? Would anyone recognize the "real you" if they met you offline? Offline, I'm not a very judgemental person. I'm not confrontational, either. Online I'm a little more brazen. I don't try to judge anyone openly or even subtly for their lifestyle choices or things they've done. Sometimes, it just comes across that way. In my real life, I don't like hurting people's feelings, so I hope that comes across online. I've known all kinds of people in my real life and I've had to make adjustments for them. So, I try not to be too judgemental. That's how I really am in real life. I'm not sure if that comes across online. Do you think that others see you for the person you really are when you post online? Do you feel that your everyday personna translates to the online world?
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
10 Jun 08
I'm not really sure. I try to treat everyone that I reply to online pretty fair. I have gotten upset a few times from replies from discussions that I have made in here. I will admit I do get upset pretty easy but I do that in real life also. Sp basicly I am pretty much the same person both online and off line.
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• United States
10 Jun 08
So, that's cool! Being yourself online as offline saves energy and time. It takes less effort to just be for real. And, I'm happy you've found your balance.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
11 Jun 08
Thank you. You seem like a very nice person also.
• United States
11 Jun 08
@gemini_rose (16194)
14 Jun 08
How I am online is me, this is how I am in real life. I do not like falling out with people, I love to have friends and I love to try and help people out wherever I can. I am always about if anyone should need me too. I think that if I should meet anyone in life that I spoke too online then they would know me straight away. I do not get it when people pretend to be something they are not I do not see the need, why hide behind a computer and pretend to be one thing when actually you are another.
@setroc (853)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
im am the same offline or online, those people that ive met before online met the real me, except ofcourse they dont know what do i look like, i dont feel comfortable putting pictures of me online, and besides i dont think they were interested to know how do i look
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
11 Jun 08
After thinking about this I realized that I am more open and bolder offline than on. I am definitely not the type to hide behind a computer screen and be mean to people because I can. It is also more difficult to get emotion across on the computer so I generally try and steer clear of it. I am way more likely to tell someone something to their face. I don't go looking for confrontation but I would rather someone hear something directly from me than hide it and have them find out some other way.
• United States
11 Jun 08
I think I am the same both on and off. I believe in being the person you really are all the time. People who are different online than they are offline are the whole problem with the internet, you never know who you are dealing with or what you are actually going to get, which allows dishonest people to take advantage of real people. Scam artist are turning the internet into an unsafe place for all ages of people.
• United States
11 Jun 08
I heard that the best way to make friends online is showing what you are.. With my relatives and common friends i act as i am but with the friends i meet online i talk more open heartly than i am. i hide nothing in me and i get so involved that i begin to say all my personal things to...I hear of people suggesting that acting as a child with girls can impress them.But i dont believe so.I think the one you are is alright.If he/she is interested on you,he/she will come closer if not gorget it..So,I am always real man when i am online or offline.
@nate_d099 (175)
• United States
11 Jun 08
i try to show my real self everywhere. I'm not much different online except i use chat responses like lol. But, i am mean on online games when ppl tick me off, but thats it.
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I try to be as close to the real me as possible - here as well as in real life. I don't like fake people and I tend to pretty much say it how I see it. After talking with me a bit, I think people here would know me in real life.
• China
11 Jun 08
It implies that men are really paradoxical .Some people hope to be a different people online.The shy may be open,the careful may be careless and the mean may be generous.They just want to be a "new" person.Perhaps they can release themselves from the stressful real world this way.I am not one of those,though.I am still who I am no matter online or offtime.I think it is hard to be a different person for me even if I have to type behind a computer.
@eloouuu (176)
11 Jun 08
My online friends know me better than some of my offline friends! I had a lot of difficulty throughout high school when it came to socialising and was never really part of a group. Since I've grown older, I've changed quite considerably - I am somewhat more confident, louder and more outgoing, all of which it is easy to be online with people who are less likely to judge you for erratic behaviour. I do consider myself to be close to my online friends as I spend a lot more time online than I do in town, they get to know the real me. I was never good with confrontation, or showing my emotions - at least online, I can have anonymity when I want it and I can choose how I feel. Being the kind of person who prefers their own company, I even get on better with offline friends when we are talking over MSN than I do when I'm with them in person. We tend to have more intellectual conversations, although this is not to suggest that I don't have fun with my other friends - just a different kind of fun, I suppose. I think that the internet is even responsible for the huge change in my personality. I hope that when I begin university next year, these personality traits will translate to my offline persona as well.
• Malaysia
11 Jun 08
Most of my online friends are my real world friends, so most if them will know the "real me". There are some friends I just knew them through internet by introducing by another friends, but these kind of friends, I will sledom chat.
@bcote212 (1113)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I would have to say that I am pretty different online vs "real Life." Im not a shy person online, but an a little in my real life. So there are things that I may say online, that I may not do so offline. But as far as personality I would say that I am the same person. i like the same things LOL.
@mummymo (23707)
11 Jun 08
Honey I think you come across wonderfully here - you know I think you are great! I think my online friends know the real me - I try to be honest to myself whether in real life or online. The main difference is that when I am online I can take a minute or two, or even longer to consider things , I have the chance to think if I am being too harsh, or whether what i say might hurt someone before I hit the submit button which is not something I could do in real life! xxx
@ShealM (388)
• Canada
11 Jun 08
"I am who I am and can be no other" I present what I am, who I am and how I am at all times both online and offline. I make no bones about what I think, my opinions, my thoughts or my ideals. I must admit I am a highly confrontational person to the point where I may come off as rude or witchy. I don't mean to be, I just tell it like it is when it is. It's who I am, if people can't accept me for what and who I am than I just don't have the time for that person. I'll confer respect when I get respect, I'm not unreasonable, I enjoy constructive and adult like debate that is productive. If I see someone say something that is completely out there and it warrants calling that person on it to own up to their words and actions - so be it. I do this in real life and I do this online. Why change who I am online if it's not being true to who\what I am.
@scapula (760)
• Jordan
11 Jun 08
I don't have online friends, every one on my messenger list I know him personally, I don't like to make friends over a chat room , this is bad way of getting friend, not bad because it is bad, but because it has some disadvantages, some relationships do work, and some don't, you have to be lucky enough to get some real friends online. Yeah all my online friends know me well.
• Hong Kong
11 Jun 08
I would say yes. Everyone who knows me online, I regard them as a real friend, so they really get to know the real me, and there is no difference between virtual and reality. I mean the whole point is making friends, getting to know people, especially in a community here, why pretend to be someone else? I don't. Life is hard enough and I definitely don't want to bother to be someone else.
@beybes08 (125)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
I'm not sure. I am kind of different than I am in real life. I think its because online people don't really know me so when I'm talking to my online friends I do feel a little safer than in real life where I fear I might be judged. Of course I will be judged but at least I don't have to see it. So sometimes, I do feel that I'm more bolder and open up more when I'm with my online friends.
@bagumbayan (2707)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
A persons personality always dont change unless hes a good actor. I mean what he is in person, the way he writes, speaks and do things is the same person whom you discuss with in mylot. Maybe others can make some retouches on his character but the real you will prevail later on.
@aswinbio (174)
• India
11 Jun 08
its not possible. how can u reveal yourself without knowing them.
@Erratic (724)
• Australia
11 Jun 08
I have met a couple of people irl that I knew from various online games. They were pretty much what I had expected and I am glad I met them.