Unvalued by your best friend?

@cryw0lf (1302)
United Kingdom
June 11, 2008 11:04am CST
I've done everything for my best-friend. Whenever she's had problems i've always sorted them out. Shes the kind of person most people find annoying, but to me she's just too funny. I've been her friend for years but suddenly realised how much she takes me for granted. She'll ignore me when theres others she'd rather talk to. If one of her other friends, that she's known for like 5 minutes insults me she'll just let them walk all over me. Am i just being paranoid or is she just becoming a bad friend? What makes YOUR best friend, a best friend? What do you suggest i do?
1 response
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Looks like the best friend status is not mutual. She may be your best friend but it doesn't look like she necessarily thinks of you as her best friend. She definitely takes your loyalty for granted. Maybe she doesn't even realize that her behavior is hurtful. Although I can somehow understand that she may want to talk to other people at times she should not let those people 'walk all over' you. You have three options. You can discuss this with her and see if she is willing to change her behavior. If not, you should look for another 'best' friend. You can still hang out with this girl as a regular friend though, if you so desire. Alternatively, you can skip the talk and look for another best friend immediately. Lastly, you can leave it at the status quo and not say anything. Personally, I would give the first option a try. If she is a true friend she will at least try to change her behavior. If she would laugh in my face or brush it off, I would look for friendship elsewhere as a 'best' friend should be concerned about my feelings.
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun 08
Thought someone might say that. I've spoken to her about it atleast 3 times and she just doesnt take it into account. So maybe it is time i just moved on and found someone that values my friendship as much as i do.