should i keep the relationship?
By nicole_18
@nicole_18 (51)
Philippines
June 13, 2008 8:37am CST
i am married for 4 years now and and i am now having a problem with my husband..as days goes by i noticed his bad attitudes towards me,i really don't know if he is really like that with his parents.I don't know if it's normal for a couple to always fight in front of their child.my husband gets easily annoyed and he always shouted at me even for a small things.You know what it's really hurt every time he shouted at me and after he says everything or after we argued he will go to his family,he will leave me and my son without fixing things up.I am really upset and hurt because he always do this to me.I am really tired of this kind of situation.i need your advise, should continue the relationship with him or should i stop?I don't know what am i going to do because sometimes it got to the point that he almost hit me and i don't want to happen that,i don't want to loose my respect to him or vise versa.
1 response
@christine_margot (282)
• Philippines
13 Jun 08
I am sorry to hear what you're going thru. I am married myself and I am saddened to hear about your story.
I want to share my story to you. I hope it helps:
Before I got married 3 years ago, I promised myself that I will not tolerate 3 things in my marriage: infidelity, physical and emotional abuse and lack of responsibility. I explained these to my husband and HE AGREED that if he commits any of the 3, i am better of without him.
Honestly, if I was in your situation, I would dump him. But for your child's sake talk to him. If he does not listen and instead resorts to violence then leave him. I have friends who WERE in bad marriages and they left. Leaving is the hardest step but when you get over it living is better. You do not have to stay in an abusive relationship. No mother deserves that type of treatment.
@nicole_18 (51)
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
Thanks for your advise.it really help me a lot.Honestly,that's my decision right now and i hope i get over it with flying colors and i hope also that my child will understand me for his own sake...thanks again
