Alone or Lonely?

@lazeebee (5468)
Malaysia
June 14, 2008 1:39am CST
"You are only lonely when you are alone, but that doesn't happen because you always have yourself. If you like yourself, you will never get lonely" - Buddha How would you interprete the above? Being alone doesn't mean lonely. Some of us are happy with our own company - reading, listening to music, watching movies. I consciously choose to be alone, but I 'm not a loner or hermit. I keep myself informed of the latest development in news & technology and networked when necessary; however after office hours and on weekends, I'll crawl into my shell and 'hibernate' happily till the coming Monday. What do you think?
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• Philippines
14 Jun 08
I am never lonely. I can look lonely but only because I am introspective (thinking). I am usually surrounded by lots of people but I can choose to have my alone time whenever, and that's when I dig deep inside and think through things. So alone and loneliness need not go together. In my opinion, loneliness is felt when a person FEELS alone in a negative situation. That hapened to me weeks ago at a party with family and friends at my place; I was going through a lot. Everyone was having a great time but I felt all alone surrounded by them because they have no idea what's happening to me.On the other hand, a person can be physically alone and deliriously happy with himself, so I guess that last statement agrees with Buddha.
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@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
17 Jun 08
You really describe it all so perfectly ! So glad to know that there are really people who want to be alone, to be left with their own company.
• United States
14 Jun 08
I'm always finding myself feeling lonely. Right now for instance. I have family and friends in my life, I just seem to clam up whenever I get this way. I'm rarely ever alone. There is always someone in my house but I don't have the constant companion of that "special someone" and it's sad but I think that's what makes me feel so lonely.
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@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
17 Jun 08
Don't feel so lonely. Some of us need a companion, a friend around - some of us don't. Well, try to be happy with your ownself; and hope you'll find that special someone soon.
@paid2write (5204)
14 Jun 08
I never feel lonely when I am alone. I enjoy my own company and I am never bored. I have felt very lonely in the past, at a time when I was living with someone, but I was not happy in myself. I lacked confidence and had low self-esteem. I have loving relationships and friendships, but I have grown to be very independent and self-sufficient, and I don't need to rely on anyone else, emotionally. I am not in a relationship now and I have no close family, but it is not necessary for me. I can have a happy life on my own.
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
17 Jun 08
Ya, sometimes even one more person around can cramp your style. I like to read, sometimes think, and if another person is around, they would want to talk, discuss, etc... I'm glad you are happy and independent. So enjoy life and have fun!
• Malaysia
17 Jun 08
Hie Lazeebee, sometimes I feel more lonely in the crowd of people than being by my self. Even though they are a lot of happy faces that I see but I do believe there are some who are lonely inside. And people always has the misunderstanding that if you are alone by yourself means that you are lonely.Sometimes they even tend to pity you if they come to know that you went out eating or go shopping alone. I feel that shouldn't be the case, as I for one enjoys to be by myself mostly ,to catch up with my self developments and interests. I think I deserve it since almost the whole week has been taken up being with other people and what is so wrong or pitiful taking a day or two being by myself. Yes, one can also be lonely too by being alone if they are pessimistic about them self and surroundings. And what Buddha has said is so true, 'like yourself' and you will be more optimistic. How can one be lonely when the mind is full of positiveness that radiates to the whole being and things around them Cheers and have a good day!