Having a Child : The Pregnancy...

@SomeCowgirl (32273)
United States
June 17, 2008 1:01pm CST
Well, i've never been pregnant. I'm not pregnant now either, but i'm curious as to how the "discomfort" really feels and all the other things that are associated with childbirth. I've always wondered how it felt and would appreciate any explanation on the feelings during, before and after childbirth. A few questions i'd like to add in are : 1. What can you eat and what can't you eat? (Or what is recommended and what is not) 2. Have you had an epidural? How uncomfortable is it?
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@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Hi there, I remember my mom sharing me about her experiences during her pregnancy. I was the first child and she never had any morning sickness during those moment, She just love to eat a lot of boil eggs and fresh coconut...I am also excited to be in that stage but I wish it will be as easy as my mom, I had a friend who can't eat most of the food because she will vomit and it took like 5 months before she was able to feel normal.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Yes, cravings are a big part of the package, atleast I have observed for myself. I am glad that your mother had a easy pregnancy and I hope you do as well. I have also heard that the bigger the person's feet (the ladies) the easier it is during the birthing process.
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• United States
18 Jun 08
wow...really? I never heard about that...My mom's size is 9, I am 9 also..LOL! Maybe true since she has entirely no pain during those times!
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
18 Jun 08
It may be true or it might just be because of the mother's diet, outlook on preganancy, etc. It's just one of those things that could be a mere linked coincidence.
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• Canada
20 Jun 08
I have not had a child either but I just finished watching Real live birth on you tube. Some of it was very graphic and the screaming was vulgar. But most of them had the sound off and what not. The look on the faces of these woman while delivering is priceless if you watch her face the moments before (pain) and the moments after (love) it will probably bring tears to your eyes. Some of them are very educational.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I did not actually think of watching this. I should try to find something on t.v. as well, as the TLC network always seems to have something about giving birth. Thanks for your suggestion though and I will be looking for these video's on youtube. Have a Great day.
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• United States
18 Jun 08
Well let me first say that everyone is different and every pregnancy is different so you can't go by what other people say. For me...the worst part was the morning sickness which you can have anytime of the day. The labor wasn't as bad as I thought it was. Mostly my back was killing me. These days they have pain meds for you if you choose to use them so you shouldn't be too worried about that. As far as to what you can eat and drink...your OB will give you a packlet and let you know what you can eat and not eat. When I had the epidural It didn't hurt at all! But about an hour before I started pushing it wore off but again everyone is different. I'm kinda glad that it did wore off cause I was able to push really good. It only took me 4 pushes to get my son out. You push like you are having a really big poop. O..and if you poop don't worry the nurses are use to it they just hurry up and clean it up without you even knowing that you had poop. I didn't poop cause I did all of that before. When you first go into labor your body automaticly cleanse your sytem out...you'll have diaherra. Also when you go into labor don't eat anything else..just drink and you won't feel sick or poop later on. But I think you would be fine!! After you see that baby you'll forget about all the pain. Good Luck!! I just wish I started having kids younger. I am 27 and just had my first baby.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Another user here said that the so called morning sickness can occur at any time of the day. I just wonder why the call it that, then. I didn't know about the packlets that are given, but one of my friends went to the OB and they told her she could not drink tea but every once in a while. That is really the only thing she said that the OB said to her but I am sure that she had a more strict diet. A couple of people here have said that you can poop while in labor and some even say that they extract the fecal matter before you go into labor so that you don't. I suppose it just depends on what you decide, what the doctor decide and possibly even what you've eaten before hand. Don't worry about having the child late, it's better to be prepared and sometimes waiting into a little later helps you get prepared financially, mentally and emotionally. Thanks for your response, and welcome to mylot. Have a Great day.
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• Malaysia
18 Jun 08
I have never pregnant before, I can't tell u the experience. But I think the pregnancy depends on the person, some will feww normal, some looks like suffering. May be looks like normal 1 they already have experince, so they can act like normal. Like the what can eat, what can do, these kind of questions, I think have to ask the elderly. You are preparing to get pregnant? If you are pregnant now, I would like to say congratulation to you!
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Yes it seems that from responses here, everyone's pregnancy is different. I have heard that everyone's pregnancy is different, and I assume that the diet for women are also different depending on their country of origin, doctor, beliefs and food allergies while pregnant. I am preparing ot get pregnant, but not right now I just wished to gather the information to alleviate any worries that I have towards being pregnant. Thanks for your response. Have a Great day. Welcome to mylot, I hope you enjoy it here.
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@neelygal (1022)
• Bahamas
18 Jun 08
I have three kids,each pregnancy was different.I ate just whatever I felt like while I was pregnant.I actually love being pregnant and if I didnt have difficult pregnancies I would probably have had more kids.I suffer from high blood pressure when pregnant so this causes a few problems for me and all of myt kids had to be delivered by c-section prematurely.My last baby was even taken at 7 months and had to stay in the hospital for a month.It is such a joyous feeling to feel your child moving inside of you.There is no greater feeling in the world.I didnt have ant epidurals because with each of my pregnancies I was put to sleep.Recovering from the surgeries is a little hard but when you hold your child in your arms it is definitely worth it.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Thanks for your response to me. My family suffers from high blood pressure but I am not sure if that would cause me to while I am pregnant. I assume that it's different during pregnancy as you have a child inside of you. Thanks for your response again.
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18 Jun 08
hi.. i had my 4th baby 8 months ago, each one of my labours have been different, as have my pregnancies. i think every woman is different and carries differently, my 1st labour was long, my 2nd labour was shorter but more intense, my 3rd again shorter but the pain more intense, my 4th labour was the longest, during pregnancy there are many different things you can suffer with or not as the case may be, i never really had morning sickness or heartburn like some women do, i did suffer with restless legs though which is not at all painful but just annoying, labour and childbirth is wonderful, and you get this georgeous little bundle to take home with you at the end of it all lol.. as for things you can't eat, im in the uk so not sure if us is the same, but we are told to avoid: soft cheeses, blue cheeses, soft ice cream,mayonnaise, peanuts/peanut butter, un-cooked shellfish,certain types of fisg eg, swordfish, shark, marlin,..we are told only small amounts of tuna. if you do deceide to have a baby...good luck..xx
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I think that regardless of where you are , the food instructed not to be consumed are probably about the same... We all use the same foods, we just prepare them differently. Thanks for your response, I have heard that each labor is a little different from one child to the next. Some say it gets easier and some say it gets harder. I suppose it's a bit of both, it's easier because your used to it but it's harder because not one pregnancy is the same. Those are just things i've read here and concluded. Thanks for your response, welcome to my lot I hope you enjoy it here, and have a great day.
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• United States
18 Jun 08
Just to throw it in here. I don't think that If I were female, I would not want to have a baby!!! I was with my wife when she gave birth to my son. Now, I am six-two,230 pounds, in shape, been in the Corp, in-country, under fire, and a few other things. My wife on the other hand was about five two, and averaging around 110 pounds, when she started giving birth, I got scared, the look on her face, the tone of her voice scared the crap outta me!!!! So, to all the mothers and women out there- Thanks,but no thanks!!!!!!!!!
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Lol, I love that you honest about this. To be honest, I thought you were going to say that you fainted when she told you her water broke. Thanks for your response, and have a great day.
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@sanell (2114)
• United States
18 Jun 08
childbirth is not all bad. Yes you have discomfort, your body changes, but that is not as noticeable until you get into the 8th, 9th month of pregnancy. You can not eat Sushi, deli meats, too much tuna, certain fishes, just anything that is not cooked all the way. Their are certain shell fish you want to stay away from. Overall there is not much you CAN't eat but certain fish and anything raw you want to stay away from. Yes I had an epidural it was NOT BAD at all, I was more worried about having a contraction during the time I was getting an epidural. Both times I got one it worked right away and it took less than 5 minutes...my doctors were GOOD!!! I would not have done it any other way!
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I have heard of the raw fish thing, but must admit that it will be no problem here as I don't eat anything raw. I am glad that the epidural does work fast, that is good to know. Thanks for sharing, have a great day.
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@ambkeb (782)
• United States
17 Jun 08
With my son...my oldest...I was so miserable the entire pregnancy. I was sick the ENTIRE pregnancy. I was even puking while I was in labor with him. I also had blood pressure problems with him so it was recommended that I had the epidural. Which was nothing at all. They do put it in your back...but it feels like a tiny little bee sting...once it is in you dont even feel it. The IV's hurt worse. With my daughter it was also recommended that I get the epidural because I wasnt progressing the way I should have and they use the epidural sometimes to just help someone relax...The more you are relaxed the less you fight the contractions and faster you can dialate and progress. WIth my son I also had a 4th degree tear (which means front to back) but my daughter I didnt even have to be snipped. My son weighed 8lbs 5oz and my daughter was 8lbs 11oz and both were 21 1/2 inches long. But like someone said...after the baby is born you completely forget everything about how uncomfortable you were being pregnant.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
17 Jun 08
That has been in the back of my mind (forgetting about being uncomfortable) and I feel that everyone is right. I never thought about that, about the joy of having the baby overweighing the discomfort during childbirth. Thank you for your response.
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• United States
17 Jun 08
I had all three of my children naturally. I do not know much about the epidural except most woman get one when in labor. I think it depends on you tolerance for pain. As far as being pregnant I think every pregnancy is different. You need to eat healthy and eat what you can keep down. morning sickness is the worst. some people get morning sickness and some don't. I don't think you get to uncomfortable until the last months. The baby moves around alot in there and it's uncomfortable. I think after giving birth you forget all the pain and enjoy your little bundle.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Yes, I have heard that an epidural is only given for pain. I don't think i'd want to get that I would much rather take a pill or possibly have it naturally. I'm sure if I had it naturally my fiance would have to go to the ER to get his hand bandaged up though, as i'm sure i'd break it from holding it so tight. Do you think that eating healthy helps with the discomfort in later months, or not? Can you explain more on the discomfort? is it a gas feel or is it a feeling as if something is moving slightly? I am sure that when I do get pregnant, and after it all I will forget the pain of childbirth and cherish the new born. Thanks for your response.
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