Do you have the perfectionist syndrome?

Philippines
June 21, 2008 7:23am CST
Well i just made this word but what I mean is that you try to make things perfect and then you get stressed. You plan things and you do things even though your own self is hurting. You never try to rest because you believe that there are many things that should be done. You keep on working although you are pretty well assured of the future. All the things I wrote there are what I feel and what I am. I am now in college and there was once that I have been diagnosed of a general anxiety disorder and it took me months with medication to recover because I hyper ventilate. I really do not know what is bothering me. I am the type of person who really likes to keep on working, reading, solving problems. I really like competition and in every thing that I do I do it well because I want it to be the best. I hate it when other people get to be the best. Everytime I see beggars I feel sad and start to think of plans to help them in the future. I even thought once that I really wanted to be a president. Currently I am still having problems coping out with this problem. I really do not know what is happening to me. I just feel that maybe someday I will go crazy and I just can't stop working because I have many things to do. Although I believe that my future is very well secured, I still keep on working. Maybe there is this problem in me that I haven't really resolved and I really want to resolve that is why I am so workaholic lately. If you could give me some advices or aid please do. Thanks. By the way I am not crazy at all.
4 responses
• United States
26 Jun 08
Oh yeah. I try, too much sometimes, to make things run smoothly. I don't like being a perfectionist because of the stress that comes with it. The hurting is what makes it a painful experience. You just want to do well, that's it. I am a quiet competitor in my daily life. Occasionally I feel silly trying to compete when a race is so unnecessary and unplanned.
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
I didn't know why I really wanted to compete with other people. Competition makes me happy and fired up. Often times I win but it doesn't seem to make me happy and I don't know why.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
25 Jun 08
Back in my high school days I developed a "perfectionist personality" but it didn't last long because I wasn't the best at all. But i do all things in perfection and I want to know a little bit of everything for I believe I would get ahead of everybody if I know a little. Then college years come and I have met people better than me. I told myself I am just another ordinary student who tries hard to be extraordinary. And so I fought through the years for a good grade but I didn't make it. I got too lax. Until when I took the licensure board examination and I didn't pass. I tried to be with myself but it came to the point that I got depressed. I didn't take any medication. My mom just guided me to go through life. She didn't expect much from me but I expected much from myself. I beleieved in myself so much that I can but it turned out that I am not that talented at all. I tried to be perfect in whatever I do. Now, I just take life as it comes. Before I am like a jack of all trade, and I didn't master any. So I am slowing down now. Trying to enjoy what is happening everyday. I don't think you're crazy. I did thought of helping the poor too, I got involved in NGOs. I think the best way for you to overcome this is to have a certain plan. In whatever you do...put a goal. When are you supposed to achieve it or finish it. Through this way, you will see results of what you have been going crazy about. I am glad you have a great mind and you wnat to use it to the extent of its power. You need to put a direction to your energy. Write down short and long term goals. This would help a lot. Take care =) Take life as it come. Enjoy it while you are still young and energitic.
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
Thank you very much leah. You sure are a good person and I believe that maybe because I had been so much busy in life I never learned to relax. So this year I'm shedding them off and at least I could say that I enjoyed my college even though its the last year of my college. Thanks Leah.
@Emma30587 (402)
21 Jun 08
I dont think your crazy at all! Im a bit like you myself. Everything has to be perfect or I start to get stressed out. When I was at school all my homework had to be perfect or I would go off on one! Shouting and getting really wound up. I too suffered from aniexty and panic attacks, and 8 years on, I still suffer but I know how to control it more. I wish you all the luck in the future
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
Its really good to have people who understand your situation and whom you can share your pains with. How were you able to control your anxieties? What happens when you have panic attacks? Thanks.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
5 Oct 10
Well most of us have this problem, even i feel sometimes am like this. So i take it every weekend and at during festival months i never miss vacations, that my best stress relieving out of mechanical life.