my father doesn't know that i'm pregnant...
By khithi17
@khithi17 (762)
Philippines
June 26, 2008 11:02am CST
here's the story. my mom and dad are separated. i think they didn't even got married. so my sister and me are living with our mother and my father have a family of his own. he's not supporting us in any way. but sometimes we IM each other. i'm so bothered that he needs to know about me being pregnant at this age. but it seems like i dont want him to know and my mom says that he doesn't have to know. it's so confusing, right?
but... i'm thinking that he didn't have to know about this because he's not even supporting us so what's the point. errrggg. i'm really confused. i want him to know but i dont want him to know. maybe i'm scared of how he will react to it...
15 responses
@mEisky (824)
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
oh..you're gonna be a mother soon.^_^
im soo happy for you..
well..i know how you feel.but for me it wud be better to tell him in a nice way cos you know he's stil your father,.At least you showed him that you still treats him as ur father..i just dont know if that was the situation or something..Its just my thought..
take care of yourself & for d baby!
goodluck and have a nice day!
?mEi
@mEisky (824)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
ahw..my bad.why do you think it's hard to tell him.?aren't yoy close.?lol..actually..i still have my father but then it was something like he's not existing for us.I mean..He's not living with us becuz he's a bad guy!!errm..That's why im getting used to that..Even if he's around or not it's nothing more special..Dang.!!hate him!!but sometimes i do pity my dad..
@kangel48446 (507)
• United States
26 Jun 08
You may not HAVE to tell him but I think it's a good idea. My dad isn't a big part of our lives either, but when I found out that I was pregnant I called him to tell him. The baby is still his grandchild and he has a right to know that. Send him an e-mail if you're not comfortable talking to him about it. It'll be easier to tell him now, then answer even more questions later. Good luck, hun!
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
its your heart and conscience that would tell you what to do, he is your father no matter what will happen but its still your decision to keep the truth from him, you can tell it on later time anyway, its all up to you, you decide what good will happen if you keep the truth from him rather that let him know and face the consequence.
good luck.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
Considering that he's got a family of his own and not even supporting you, I would agree with your mom that he doesn't have to know. But then again, why be afraid to tell him? He is, after all, your father.
@fatima07 (169)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
I think you have to tell this to your father. In other hand he still your father even though he did not do his part or responsibilities as a father to his first family. He still have the right to know about your situation so let him to know about this. It is just a piece of advice so it's up to you. Your last decision will be still yours.
@prashanth1489 (748)
• India
27 Jun 08
start hinting him about things like him ever wanted to be a grand dad , or if he has a family on his own as you said , ask him about his grand kids there , and then if he seems okayable with it , then proceed with it , else button it up :)
Men can get as hypocritical as anything when it comes to parenting and knowing things .
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
27 Jun 08
If it is something that is weighing on your mind then it will only continue until you tell him. You shouldn't be worrying about things when you are pregnant so just get it out there in the open and let it go. Once it is out there you can keep your thoughts positive and no matter his reaction you only worry about you and the baby.
@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
hi.
the baby is a blessing regardless of the situation you're in right now. as for your father, he defintiely needs to know. he will find out eventually when you give birth so why delay the inevitable? anyway, this child might pave the way for you and your father to renew your tie with each other.
i think it's best that you tell him about your pregnancy as soon as possible.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
sad to know, but to your father, you dont have to be worry, its about time to tell your dad even he is not supporting you and your sister. feel free to tell to your father that you are pregnant, he has no right to hurt you at this moment, but he has responsibilities to his daughter.
@zoneforall (4)
• United States
27 Jun 08
pregnant huh.? i think it would help a little if you talk to your dad that you are preggy for a little courtesy you know. No matter what he had done to your family he is still your daddy. You said that you guys talk to IM so it means he still cares about what is happening to you. He might not care if you said it to him but at least you give him a chance to stand by you when you need him. Your starting to build your own family right so start it by taking out those hatred bout your dad. Everyone makes mistake.
@m18j7crystal (184)
•
27 Jun 08
Sad to hear that but whatever happens, he would still be your father.
You don't have to be afraid. The thing is, you are willing to stand for what you did. You are pregnant and the least you could do is to make sure that your baby would experience a happy family...
@eric_5104 (19)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
I think you should tell your father,because you father will know that eventually. I think your father will fill much better if you tell him, than learning from others. take care of your new angel
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
26 Jun 08
he is going to find out anyway so jus find the courage to do it it might not be as bad as it seems. right now my sister is 6 months pregnant my dad jus found out but my sister cant stay there any more be cause of religous beleif. it is rough on her stress have no where to go now. jus pray any God will deliver.
