How to control temper?

June 27, 2008 12:34am CST
I feel very bad that these two years i became temperative, i got angry easily, especially with boyfriend, if he does something i regard as wrong, i will definately get angry, and i will quarrle with him, i feel very sarrow, what shall i do?i don't want to be so, but i can not control myself. my friend, i feel bad.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
27 Jun 08
A lot of the ways I can think of will probably be criticized. I think one person has already mentioned counting down from 10, and that does work. As well as memorizing a little rhyme to yourself so that it will give you time before you react. Removing yourself from the situation or closing your eyes and breathing deeply once before saying anything helps. Have you thought of taking anger management classes? I don't know how angry you get at him, so I can't say much. Have a Great day.
@Dubl10 (14)
• United States
27 Jun 08
smoke pot :)
• India
3 Jul 08
Hi friend.. You still young.. and in your early twenties.. and it is not a wonder when you get easily tempted and provoked. Only when you have more of the wordly experiences.. mingling with different persons you will get your temper and anger subdued to a great degree. In fact, i am like you, when i was in in early 20's. And by now experience has taught me great lessons and by now.. i have more or less learnt to control my anger. Anger is the harvest of the tantalising mind..
• India
30 Jun 08
first tell your partner about your temperament and reasons for this.Even if you got tempered your partner can understand and try to control you.any way you are the one suffering from temper so u have to control your self If you are too angry to thinbk rationally ,remove you self from the situation. give youself a few quite minutes alone to cool down.thonk of some thing relaxing. when you feel your body relax tale a few deep breaths. return to the orginal situation and try a different approach if you got some problem with someone dont hold it inside let him know about it/
• China
28 Jun 08
how to control your temper. 1.remember that the reward for patience is happiness. 2.realize that things can be handled well at all's just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it.take deep breaths. 3.get away from situations where your anger might get the better of you.such as when someone is teasing you,ignore the other person and walk away.if you must,do this a few times until the person gets the hint that you will not tolerate it,it's okay to use your words or body language to tell somebody you will not tolerate how they are treating long as you respond to them in a claim and matter of fact manner,without being overtly hurtful or trying to embarrass them as they have's never okay to hit somebody for making fun. 4.realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry esaily,and act abusive.the only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself. 5,be considerate of others,and ultimately yourself.the way you react will ultimately affect your surroundings.if you have to rebuke someone for doing something can always do it a private place.this method is always better for everyone in the long run. 6.if you are angry and you are standing,sit down.if you are sitting then lie down. 7.remember,5 seconds stand between you and logic.count to 5,and remember that logic always beats anger.
@alokn99 (5718)
• India
27 Jun 08
Everytime you loose your temper, take a few minutes and think about what made you loose your temper. If there are somethings you find that your boyfriend says to you which irritates , then talk to him about it. Another way is to just count to 10 in your mind slowly when you start feeling angry.