How should we define romantic
June 28, 2008 3:30am CST
Yestreen ..when i with my friends dining outside..one friend put out an question..do you feel romantic with your GF..someone said yes also someone no...when they told me ..i didnot know what can i speak..i asked them what is the romantic.? what is the romantic ..yes .we all say that someone with someone are romantic ..because we feel they live in an filling with surprise..i do not know whether am i romantic ? but i just want to say..romantic not because you are fill with surprise but you feel you two live together are happy.. this is what i think about .. what is the romantic ..what do you think about it?
28 Jun 08
In a strange way, romantic love is the least understood part of the human psyche because we are content in believing that “it just happens”, that it is something so sacred that it clearly resists rational understanding, or that it is an entirely different experience for everyone such that it is impossible to articulate. Indeed, social psychology textbooks talk a great deal about the factors that impact relationship formation (proximity, familiarity, shared attitudes etc), but they typically do not have a lot to say about romantic love as something separate from platonic friendships. But perhaps underneath the mystical, maybe even mythical, glow of love’s façade, there is something that we can articulate and talk about meaningfully. And perhaps understanding romantic love empowers us rather than corrupting love through deliberate exploration. list of the symptoms of limerence: 1) Intrusive thoughts about the object of passionate desire (the “limerent object” or LO) 2) Acute longing for reciprocation 3) Mood becomes dependent on the LO’s actions 4) Inability to react limerently towards more than one person at the same time (except when limerence is at low ebb) 5) Unsettling shyness and fear of rejection when in the presence of the LO 6) Intensification through adversity (up to a certain point) 7) Acute sensitivity to any act or condition that could be interpreted as favorable 8) An aching of the “heart” (a palpable heavy sensation in the front of the chest) 9) Buoyancy (a feeling of “walking on air”) 10) An intensity of feeling that leaves other concerns in the background 11) A remarkable ability to emphasize the positive traits of the LO, while rendering the LO’s negative traits as “endearing” to the point where it is perceived to be another positive trait. --- (pg. 23) The central paradox of limerence is that someone who is actively limerent feels like they are experiencing the most unique, rapturous experience in the world even though limerence seems to have fairly universal characteristics
28 Jun 08
i think different people define romance as different things to themselfs. when trying to find out the meaning of the word romance there is no specific genre, there are many things listed which can refer to the word romance. romance for me however is having somebody take you and your feelings into consideration, going out of there own way to make you feel special no matter what that may be, flowers or even a cuddle. its just something that you know is there and when somebody has tried hard.