Competitions:is it okay to be competitive with your partner?

United States
June 29, 2008 4:19am CST
I have been thinking about competitions,and it made me want to ask all you people out there in mylotland lol, Do you think it is okay to be competitive with your partner?If so,why do you think it is okay?If not,then why do you think it is not okay?Do you think that you are more competitive than your partner,or do you think that your partner is more competitive then you?Do you think competition is a good thing?If so,why do you think that?If not,then why do you think it is not?Personally I think it okay to be competitive with your partner as long as you do not let it go too far,and get out of hand ,because a good competition every now and then can be a good way to motivate oneself to do better,and work to improve ones abilities,when it comes to me and my fiance I feel that we are about the same,because we can both be very competitive at times,while at other times we choose not to be,and I think competition can be a very good thing,as long as you do not let it get in the way,and do not let it blind you,and make you oblivious to the fact that winning is not everything,and as long as you do not let it get in the way of your relationship, for example me and my fiance have a competition to see who can get more posts,which we do it for fun,and to help motivate us to do as many posts as can,especially since we need money,since it is hard to find a job, since gas prices are so high right now.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
29 Jun 08
I think that competitions are good to have in relationships, it kind of spices things up. However if they lead to fights then they should be stopped and a strict guideline on what to compete for should be made. I compete with you but that's only because we do it for fun and to earn, it gives us both the initiative that we need to do our best. I can't be sure which one of us is more competitive but i'd have to say that we are both equally as competitive just as much as we are equally stubborn. Good luck on getting ahead of the game, hun.
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• United States
29 Jun 08
Yeah it does tend to spice things up,and yeah if it causes a fight it should be stopped,and I agree a strict guideline should be made of what to compete for, and what to not compete for,and yeah you only compete with me for fun,and it does give us the initiative we need to do our best,and yeah we are both equally stubborn,and thanks I will try to get ahead of you in the post count,I love you baby.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
12 Jul 08
It looks as if you've gotten ahead of me by a good amount. Nice work, and I agree with you when it comes to competitions. I Love You Baby and Thanks for The Best Response!
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• United States
12 Jul 08
Yeah I know somehow I managed to get ahead of you in the post count,but I am sure that you will catch up with me soon,because you always seem to do so,and I am glad that you agree with me on the issue of competition,and I love you,and you more than deserved the best response baby,because I felt that your response was the one that that should receive it,I love you,thanks for responding,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
29 Jun 08
A mild sort of competition is ok and that to when you are doing things that you enjoy doing together, say playing a game of scrabble. Too much Competetion leads to inflated egos and that the starts fights and arguments and leads to the breaking of the relationship. Well enjoy your competition with your wife on mylot. I'm sure she will post more than you do. Hehehe.
• United States
29 Jun 08
I agree a mild sort of competition is okay,especially if you do things together that you enjoy doing,and you are right too much competition will lead to an inflated ego,which can cause fights,arguments,and may even cause the relationship to end,which is never a good thing, thanks we will definately enjoy our competition,and right now she is ahead of me in the post count,and she will probabily stay ahead of me,but I will not give up, thanks for responding,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting.
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@siddiqali (632)
• India
29 Jun 08
In a competition we must have no emotional feelings.Just think with your brain and not with your heart.Yes you must to be competitive with your partner
• United States
29 Jun 08
Thanks for responding,I agree when it comes to competition it is good to not let emotions get involved ,and I do not feel that you have to be competitive with your partner,but I respect your opinion,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting.
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