Anyone taking care of elderly inlaws:

@ebberts (786)
United States
August 20, 2006 11:35pm CST
My mother inlaw lost her husband 3 years ago and she moved in with her youngest son. Sadly he passed away in april. The son's wife doesn't want her to stay with her and wants her to move in with us. we don't have room but my husband is the only son left, and we feel it is our place to take care of her. She has always lived in other states and our children and myself have seen her very little over the years. She requires 24 hour care. My health isn't to good, don't know how I will deal. Wouldn't think of putting her in a nursing home. any advice out there.
2 responses
@missyann73 (1457)
• United States
11 Sep 06
I take care of my terminally ill mother, and I think each case is different. Check into your local agencies to try to get you a CNA for the personal care. I had one for 8 months till I was able to take a personal leave. It is a very hard job to care for a love one. My mother is now total care, from bathing to feeding. Her mind is gone from radiation to the brain. I wish you the best. Do what you feel is right, not what other family members think. Dont let them make you feel guilty. God bless
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
21 Aug 06
One should take care of elderly in-laws as far as possible. If things do not permit, then they should be put in a best home for aged and one should go and see them once a week.