Are you close with your family?

United States
July 1, 2008 1:12am CST
I am already married and have a family of my own. However, I find it difficult to like my mom and sisters (I don't even talk to my dad anymore because of abuse). They are difficult to get along with even thought I've tried very hard to build a relationship with them. Even my sisters are too lazy and don't care about anybody but themselves and don't make an effort to keep in touch with me as I have done with them. One of my sisters is a workaholic and she doesn't want to talk on the phone, doesn't want to visit me and my family, so she writes very brief emails and doesn't take the time to answer my questions because I want to know how she's doing. My other sister is in her 20s and still lives at home with our parents and doesn't have a job. She doesn't care about anybody but herself. She is not motivated to work. She kept changing majors when she was in college because she never knew what to do, even though she passed all of her classes with flying colors and she quit college because my parents couldn't afford her intuition anymore. She sits at home and watches tv all day. She doesn't contribute to society or the household chores but only when she feels like it. My mom doesn't want to kick her out of the house and help her be more independent. My mom makes an excuse saying "It's her life and her decision." My mom had empty nest syndrome when I left on my own and her empty nest syndrome got worse when both of my sisters left for college. I honestly feel that my mom really doesn't mind having my sister at home and doesn't mind supporting her so she doesn't have to deal with empty nest syndrome much. What are your experiences with your family?
4 responses
@thuynhu (663)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I understand partially how you feel. I am already married as well, but without the children as of now. I don't talk to my mother or my father. My mother and I never got a long and it just kept getting worst as years pass by. I would try over and over again and now I'm done trying. I don't talk to my dad cause he went to prison for abuse to my mom when I was around 2 or 3 and then as I grew up he said he was going to help out and that never happened. I have 3 brothers, one older and the other two younger. I didn't use to talk to my older one, but we are closer than before. The two youngest I was the closest with them, and especially the youngest one of us. We are all spread apart. The older one lives in Alabama, trying to go to school. The second youngest lives in Houston, Tx just graduated high school. And the youngest is about to start high school this coming here in Kennesaw, Georgia. And I am living in El Paso, Tx and soon to be South Korea because my husband is in the military. I call them as much as I can, without trying to bother them at the same time. No matter what I will always have a close bond with my brothers at the most.
• United States
1 Jul 08
That's great that you get along with your siblings. My son doesn't know his aunts very well because his aunts (my sisters) never made an effort to communicate with us. It's difficult to get along with my mom because I feel like I'm talking to the wall with her. Everytime I start talking, she will talk at the same time. She isn't open minded. If I tell her my personal concerns, she will tell it to everyone else. She never listens to me when I'm talking and she has a hard time knowing how to email, even though we've been trying to teach her for the past 10 years! If she knew how to email then I would just communicate in email with her instead of the phone. I like communicating in email better because I feel like I'm being heard more.
@excellence7 (3477)
• Mauritius
1 Jul 08
Yes I am very close with my family. For me, my family is my Universe. Everyone is very caring, loving and supporting :) I love my family the most in this world, my parents are my God. Keep your family happy forever, because they are very previous.
• United States
1 Jul 08
You are lucky you get along with your family and that you are close. I love my family but I don't respect them and their actions.
• United States
1 Jul 08
I hate that you have trouble with your family. My family is very close. I am very fortunate for that. I don't keep in touch with my brother and sister nearly as much as I would like to. We are scattered across America so it is tough. We always meet up once or twice a year with my parents for vacation or just to visit family. Great times always follow.
• United States
1 Jul 08
Some family members I am closer to then others. I have my older cousin who I am really close to along with my younger cousin. But other then that there the closest ones too me.