my husband blames me for my lost child..

Philippines
July 3, 2008 11:47am CST
my son died when he is 3 weeks old.. and my husband blames me for it.. i never wanted or wished my son to die.. if it hurts him it hurts me most.. the doctor said he died of cardiac arrest and they say congenital disease can obtain during pregnancy.. the doctor said if i had too many heartaches my child bears it too and it will affect his health.. then why did my husband blames me for my son's death?
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5 responses
@alpha7 (1910)
• France
17 Jul 08
There are some people like your husband looking for faults all the time,never mind atleast you know that it was not your fault. You can help him by asking for an appointment with a specialist who can explain to him on what exactly happened and how you can prevent such in the future rather than you blaming each other for what had happened.
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
He doesn't have the right to blame you for what happened to your baby, it's not your fault. It is God's will and you know what I mean. He should understand that he's feeling right now is nothing compare to what you have. You're the mom and you carried the baby for 9 months. The mere fact that in 3 weeks the baby is already responding to what you're saying, seeing him smile and move, then God will take him away from you is really painful. Your husband should understand how you feel and as much as possible avoid giving you more pain.
@f45703 (28)
• Indonesia
5 Jul 08
life and die is from a god...human just can make pray to him we can't justice someone to make mistake about adied so you must explain your husband that gone is bygone the life must will go on...............
@diansinta (7554)
• Indonesia
4 Jul 08
This is so sad to read. still gonna make me cry. really my son, Aaron, only have 3 rooms at his heart were there suppose to be 4. My husband and mother in law blame me for that too. This sometimes stopping me to going home. I don't want to see them anymore. Ever! but they are my neighbor.
• United States
3 Jul 08
I lost a son 8 years ago, it's no picnic to go through it. You're husband is lashing out of you because of grief. I never heard of a baby feeling it's mother's heartaches. I don't believe congenital heart disease comes from heartache. I would ask another doctor about that statement, it doesn't make sense.