when you loose a true friend over a boyfriend

July 4, 2008 9:39pm CST
I was wondering somethings. I just got my first boyfriend and am having trouble wiht a freind over it. She has never had a boyfriend and she is made that i spend time wiht my boyfriend and I dont know how to handle this. Does anyone have any ideas?
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@fwidman (11519)
• United States
5 Jul 08
It's just a little bit of jealousy on your friends part, but it is normal. Try to explain to her that you can still spend time with both her and your boyfriend and hopefully she'll calm down a bit. With any luck at all, she'll find a boyfriend too and then she won't be bothered at all
5 Jul 08
I have tried to talk to her about this. And I did my best to split my time evenly between them, and then tried spending more time with her but nothing helped. When I was with my boyfriend she would text me saying she figured I was with him. I dont know what to do, now she doesnt want anyhting to do with me and she was my best friend and its upset me quite a lot.
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
5 Jul 08
The best thing to do now then is just give her some time and see if she comes around. If she truly is that good a friend she should come back knowing that you are doing the best you can.
5 Jul 08
Thanks for the advice. I hope that giving her time does help, although its been almost 2 months that she has not spoken to me and I sent her a congratulations card and gift for graduating and didnt hear a thing from her. So I have no idea anymore but I am loosing sleep over it and trying to talk to her doesnt ehlop.
@Jellytang (698)
• China
5 Jul 08
You can set a fix time to share with your friend.And the other time,you can spend on your boyfriend.
5 Jul 08
Do you think that asking her to set a fixed time would cuase her to feel like she is an inconvienve though? I am at a complete loss and am willing to try anything becuase she is my best friend, i Just dont want to make her feel any worse then i already have made her feel.
@chenaiyh (228)
• China
13 Dec 08
Sorry for my intellect -_- are you mean you friend think you spend less time with her since you have boyfriend,and she don't like this? I think you need a talk with you friend to find out what's the trouble and how to resolve
@shooie (4989)
• United States
9 Jul 08
If you lose a friend over a guy/girl then they really aren't or weren't your friend well unless you stole their guy or girl....lol then yes I can see this. But you mentioned that she never had a boyfriend. She may feel insecure. Take a day just for the two of you and go to luch hang ourt or whatever. Call her from time to time. I had a friend the same way and well when me and my boyfriend got married had her in the wedding as my maid of honor but after she walked away from the friendship. Some people can't handle having more than one friend so when they make a friend they can't handle their new friend having more than one friend either. Just let her know you are still her friend.