Is distance a big problem for lovers?

China
July 6, 2008 4:21am CST
My boy friend and I have known each other for about 4 years.We love each other very much.But he is a sailor,so he doesn't have enough time to stay with me.I have more leisure time than him,so when I miss him a lot ,i will go to the port to see him.you know,we can't see each other as ofter as other lovers. when I have some problems and he isn't around me i just can't be so happy.sometimes i just i want somebody to sit beside me and listen to me,but he can't.Do you lovers have the same problem about distance.how do you solve it?
5 responses
@adthacker (197)
• India
8 Jul 08
ya its big problem when distance between two lovers and specially girls want more attention from their lover when boy dnt have that much time for girl. when u need him he dnt have time that really bad thing but u have lot of friend who help u when u feel alone consider ur self as ur best friend and try to solve ur problem alone in starting its difficult but after some time u becm ur best frnd and u live more happy life :) when u miss him so much think abt time which u spend together
• India
8 Jul 08
But some times he also want your love. but due to the time, work load he can't give attention on you. then you should understand him. and about the distance - distance always lover closer and closer.
• India
9 Jul 08
sorry to say but i think distance make one gap between any relation u cnt see each other so u cnt able to explain what u want to say and this gap never to be filled it always expand. and for u r talking abt love if girl can manage everything then y u cant if girl do her all work as well as spend time with u then y boys cnt?
• China
10 Jul 08
can understanding really works here?I don't know.Sometimes i am really confused.But still thank you for your responses.
• United States
9 Jul 08
My husband and I will be apart for potentially the next 4 years. We are use to spending every day together and talking for hours on end when we had to be apart. Now I can't talk to him so much and only get to spend time with him every once in a while. The worse part is not getting to talk to him. We would talk everynight and morning. I felt like it was going to weaken our bond. To keep it strong, I write to him every day, all day. Well, sporadically. I keep a journal with me and write to him all the things that we would normally talk about. He writes to me too. Our bond is just as strong as ever. Now when I get his letters I'm pleased to see that we are often thinking about the same things. Our letters help fill the void. Hope this helps. It is important that you both communicate. Communicate about everything, even the stupidest little things. To keep the bond you both have to feel actively involved in each others lives. Good luck.
• China
10 Jul 08
well,it seems that we are having the similar problem.But you deal it really better than me.I'll try just as you told me.good luck to us both.
• Malaysia
6 Jul 08
i know it's so hard to have a relationship like this but if you really love him then the distance will not be bound for you. because love never be judge by distance my friends.
• China
6 Jul 08
thanks,friend.I think I can deal with this problem well now,just as you say,i love him and he means a lot to me,so everything i am doing is deserving. thank you and good luck to you.
• Indonesia
6 Jul 08
well, i also have a long distance relationship. my girlfriend live in another city, 750 miles from my place. we just communicate by phone or text messages. yes, sometimes it feels unbearable. but i think so far we are ok.
• China
6 Jul 08
thanks for sharing.good luck to you.
@Wolfechu (1193)
• United States
6 Jul 08
After having spent six years in a long distance relationship with someone, and only finally having got together in the last six months, I'd say the distance just makes you appreciate each other more. You certainly don't take each other for granted.
• China
6 Jul 08
thanks for sharing.you've already encouraged me.