Family vs. LOVE

I think, for me my answer depends on which stage I am in. When I was a teenager my answer would have been to get on with my life because this is my life. It was then when I was in my rebellious stage. My parents were strict, especially my dad. And my mom would talk to us about taking out studies very seriously because it is very important and that boys should come later. So in high school, I had a boyfriend who I didn't tell my parents about. I didn't want to deal with all the drama and explanations I had to go through so I just kept quit. Now, as a young adult and a bit mature on the other hand my answer is that you should be open with you relationship. I mean they may not like your boyfriend but at least they know about it. They may not know what is best for you but they do try to protect you. Maybe when I get to be a parent I'll know what it feels like on their side. ~

To me girlfriend or boyfriend comes secondary, when you ask me to put them in a weighing machine. The love, affection, and the satisfaction that i derive from my family members can't be equated to anything for that matter. And hindichinese, no worries about your grammar, it is perfect. Enjoy mylotting.

First of all, as a parent, I feel that it is important to support my children in decisions they make regarding their love. There is a big risk in protesting too much. I think they could be put on the defensive for the boyfriend/girlfriend. It may be better to manipulate the situation and open their eyes to the person of their choice. As an adult, if my family that loves me, points out the flaws of someone, I'm looking a little closer. Unfortunately, some families never offer input at all. I would not know what it feels like to have my family offer input on these matters. They expect that I would make the decision best for me. Given thier records, nobody has a lot of room to talk. There was never a time that I was even offered a suggestion in that regard. I learned the hard way. I hope that as my children reach the age of dating that I can offer an objective viewpoint on their choice and let them make their own choice. Otherwise, I'll have to threaten their choice in a more aggressive manor. I will protect them as much as possible. So long as the person treats them with respect and doesn't abuse them in any way, I will stay clear. Personality issues may keep me from liking them, but abuse will inspire me to be a bit more involved and possibly deceptive, perhaps even scary. Sometimes I don't like myself when I get pushed, but these are my children, and I've invested a lot of time and energy raising them. I will protect them and if I don't, then I failed as a parent.

hello friend I think it is just not a big problem.I think you should make your boyfriend communicate with your fanilies a lot.I think it is the best way to resolve the problem which you want to keep the both choices. I think your boyfriend should do a lot which make your families happy.I think if he really love you,he can insist on doing this for you. I think it is impossible your families don't refuse a laborious,aspirant,passional young man to love you.Maybe it needs some time to make them have a good impression. Good luck to you