How will I gave a helping hand?
By ayessa
@ayessa (1583)
Philippines
July 9, 2008 1:42am CST
I am really worried about the situation of a friend of mine now. I have always make time to see her cause it was the only thing I can give to her. She was so broken, financially. Her family most specially the kids were suffering due to the situation they are into. I can't even imagine that her kids were only eating once a day but sometimes never in a day. I also felt sorry about her twins that was just 1 month old cause they can't get enough milk. She breastfed but the babies can't get milk from her. Because she has nothing to eat. If you will able to see them they all look malnourished. The wife of popeye will be envy due to thier bodies.
I wanted to help them but I also am lacking financially. I wanted to get her a job but no one will look after the kids. BEsides she does not able to reach high school. Now I want to ask you guys what help can I gave to her? if you are her friends what can you gave to her?
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4 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
9 Jul 08
Your concern for your dear friend is appreciated and must be appluaded. But how come your friend landed in such a situation, where she is facing such a financial crisis. What about her husband? If he is around, you can simply tell him to look after his family. If you are very serious, then you can lend her some money, with the conditions that whenever her situation improves, she will return the money. If possible, you can provide milk to her kids, as and when possible.
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
Her husband has a job but the salary was only good to support thier house rent. Her family was all in debts because she tried to lend some money to feed her family but they can't able to pay those debts. If ever I had some extra money I just gave it to her so that they can eat and I don't have intentions of asking her to pay it.
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@jdanloves (3)
• India
9 Jul 08
I also appreciate your concern for your friend. I wish the eyes of the people in position/wealthier were open towards the sufferings of the poor and the needy.
Its hard for a mother to see her children hungry. It makes my heart ache too. Well i would like to know what her parents are doing? What if they could take care of the kids and then get herself occupied provided her health is allowing?
I hope her husband is not spending in drinks, cos this is what hapenning in many families...
Lets pray to God...
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@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
The girl was an orphan already and her husbands mother was 85yrs old already. The old woman helps her to look after the kids but you know an old woman can't do everything. She also has nothing to give though her monthly pension helps them to pay the electricity and buy some food but it is still lacking for them.
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@Odamashin (434)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
I admire you for giving such concern to your friend's family..i can't think of any solution if i were in your position..though being there for her is not enough..and will not change everything..cannot feed the kids..but you have to at least assure her that you're there for her..why don't you try to bring some food from your house?
I'm very sorry for your friend for that miserable life..but i never blame her..For her husband, if he really want to improve their living he will look for a high paying job related to his capability..
I'm sorry for i can't think of any solution for that..if only she's my neighbor i can give her food..
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@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
Yes I wanted to help but in a way that I can. I can't look to her kids cause I also have a baby to look for and we live too far from each other. I also am working and I was seeing her daily cause I tried to eat my lunch at thier place. I was bringing my food to thier house cause in that way I can share it to them.
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@Odamashin (434)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
ohh that's a big problem..it's so hard to land on a job this time..for all the companies require it..a degree of education. It so happened that sometimes those educated are still unemployed..Maybe he can double his efforts of earning money knowing that he has growing family..and to think that the kids left nothing to it..And your friend can work at home..i mean if in your place do hire someone to do their laundries..or ironing of their clothes..she can accept it..she can do it at home while you're looking after the kids..i think it's not that disturbing for you if you look for the kids for 2-3 hours..right?if you're really willing to help..
I hope your friend thinks of having a family planning also..so that her family will not turn into much miserable life than what they have now..it's not fair for the children to live a life like that..
it's just my opinion..gudlak
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@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
9 Jul 08
My heart goes out to you and your friend because these days with gas prices going on and war times are really hard. If I were you I would have your friend look for some assistance especially if she has children she most eat... IM not sure of where you are located, but there are so many programs out there to help people in need if they really want it... there are food shelters, and goverment assistance... they even help in providing jobs with child care assistance, but again it depends on where you are located...
I will pray for her because I know its hard... I hope she finds help soon
@avidwhit (1492)
• Mexico
9 Jul 08
She needs to go to the Church they have all the money. The only thing you can do is love her and help her from leting her know that she has a real true friend in you! This is a hard time for her and she and the kids will be alright someday just keep up the good vibes and she we get the help she needs if she so desires. Take good care and happy helping. If the Church doesnt help her who can and what do they do with alll the cash? :)
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@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
12 Jul 08
I just accompany her to the nearest church where I always go on mass and they say the only help they can give to her was to send her other children to school for free. I was happy about that cause atleast now all her child can finish thier studies without her spending anything.
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