What would you do?

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I don't even know how to start this but I guess I just want some advise. My father recently passed away and my husband and I opened our house to my mother and brother because it was hard for them to go back into the home that they shared with my father. My mom and I got into a petty arguement and she moved all her things back to her home. As she was moving she told my friends daughter to tell me that I would not be getting any of my fathers ashes as we had agreed upon. Now this is not the first time she has used something like this to manipulate me into doing something she wanted me to do or just to hurt me. She had gotten angry with me because I had told her and my aunt not to argue with a friend of mine in my house because I had kids here and didn't think it was okay for them to do that with the kids being right there. So her way of getting back at me was to tell me that she would not be going to my wedding, and she didn't go. The next time was after her cancer surgery and I had been at the hospital with her almost the hole time and helping her with her job afterwords. When she was well enough I took some time to myself and didn't help her for a while. She then stopped eating and ended up in the hospital. It was then said that it was because her daughters were not talking to her that she was in the hospital. So after this last one with my dads ashes I decided that I can not let her do this to me anymore and I can not let my daughter think that it is ok to treat someone like that. Do you think i did the right thing? What is your opinion?