how can i make him love me?

Philippines
July 14, 2008 1:09pm CST
his my bf and were going out together officially, but its still not enough. i want his love. i cant see it on his eyes. i just felt his touch his but theres nothing in his smiles.
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• United States
14 Jul 08
It sounds like you seriously need to have a talk with him about how you feel. To be honest, you may have read too many romance novels about love in peoples' eyes and the love and tenderness in his touch. If he says he loves you, I'd try to believe him, unless he's simply after your body or some other sort of gain. You can't make someone love you, if they don't have the feelings for you, so I'd suggest, if you discuss it and he tells you he doesn't love you, to move on and find someone who truly cares about you. And, again, try and be practical. He could still be very much in love with you, even if he doesn't see fireworks around you every time you're together. Good luck!
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
maybe your right. maybe im just expecting too much from him. his not perfect anyway his just a simple human being. thats what i get from reading too much romance novels. but isnt it sweet to have a guy like those on the novels? maybe im acting stupid towards him demanding all his attention, but all i need is his love. why cant he do that?
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Fluffnflowers - I think that you are right about the romance novels but I must admit that I had once read to many and believed in true love. I found out that a man will never be perfect just like a woman will never be perfect. However, I did want to add that all you need is faith and love, and you'll find the person your supposed to be with. I have met the most wonderful man and even though I wasn't looking for him and he wasn't looking for me, we found each other. That just goes to show that there is truth in the saying "stop looking for love and let it find you." I am in no way trying to bast even though I am sure that it must sound as if I am. I hope that the both of you Have a Very Wonderful and Lovely Day!
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• United States
14 Jul 08
I don't know about having those guys in the novels. I prefer a real man with real faults and a real personality, myself. Those human quirks make people more special than any book character could ever be. Your guy may love you, I don't know, but I'd try to believe him, if he says he does. Everyone has a different way of expressing affection. My guy and I, for example, don't hold hands, cuddle, or do anything remotely 'couple-ish' in public, but I don't need him to touch me to know he loves me. It's a confidence thing. If he's with you, he's with you for a reason. I'm sure he's a handsome, sweet guy, which means he probably has tons of choices. He's with you because he loves you. Trust him a little. You'll know for sure if he finds someone else or you find someone that really lights your fire. If you can't trust him when he tells you he loves you, maybe you should take a break, reevaluate what you want, and see if there are others out there for ya.
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@srpkinja (375)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
Dont push it. I dont want to sound rude or anything but you cant make someone love you. When he is really, he will come around. Dont take it personally, maybe he is just the kind of guy that isnt ready for commitment or is after of it. He will come around and you just need to give him time. Good luck! I hope everything goes well.
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• Philippines
14 Jul 08
thank you for the opinion. i just cant get over him..its so hard to let him go..
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Srpkinja - I agree that giving him time would be best. I also agree that you should not push it. Nyn- I am a very romantic person and I have always been. I think that both of us are like this if you have infact read novels. I just wanted to add to you not to rush things and that if he is meant to be yours then he will be. I at one time fell in love with a beautiful face, and I landed flat on mine because he ended up dumping me and I was needy. I found my true love. Have a Wonderful and Lovely day to the both of you!
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I think that you need to have a serious conversation with him and tell him how you feel about him and ask him how he truthfully feels about you. I don't know how comfortable you are with talking to him but you need to try to talk to him as I think it would help you feel more comfortable with him and the way he feels about you. Not everyone falls instantly in love and it may take him a little while longer to. Have a Wonderfully Lovely Day!
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• Philippines
14 Jul 08
thanks..i really need a dose of advise right now..i tried to talk to him regarding the matter but he just keeps on insisting that im just being melodramatic. he keeps on telling me that he loves me but that peoblem is it doesnt shows.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Some men can not show their emotions as well as others. The one thing you have to do is show him that he will not be ridiculed and that he doesn't need to be insecure about showing you how he feels. I hope that this has helped you and that he starts opening up more.
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14 Jul 08
i think you must add more things for your look to make yourself more hot that what nay man wanna .any man wanna to be with hot girl and be proud when he say to any one she is my girlfriend. i think you must let him love and always say to him i love you i wish he like that and i wish think more about your relationship
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I disagree about a man always wanting someone to look hot. Not all men are like that and it really gives men a bad name.
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@jolope (988)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
oh man you are in deep trouble.. i think that you cant force him to love you.. i guess all you have to do is give it your best shot and be prepared for anything.. you cant put your hopes up high but dont let it crush your heart.. be the woman he could ever need..^_^ best of luck..^_^
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• Philippines
14 Jul 08
thank you for your advise. im just so down right now and confuse. i mean why does he have to court me if he doesnt feel anything. i am trying to convince myself that maybe his just not that sensitive. but days keep on passing by and his still the same. i dont want our relationship to end. but it hurts me the most seeing him like that as if he doesnt care, at all.
@shontia08 (846)
• United States
14 Jul 08
you can't make anyone love you. its something that will come naturally. you shouldn't want to make someone love you i mean that's just like making someone give you money they don't really want to but did because you made them. maybe you should just talk with him and find out how he really feel about you. see if he's really into you, because you don't want to push him too hard you might push him away. just give it some time, and after a while if you haven't heard those 3 litte words maybe you should reconsider the relationship. hope this helps in some way or the other.
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@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 08
I believe you should talk to him my dear, and explain what troubles your feelings. But first, you should be calm and make peace with your own feelings. Perhaps you are a bit expecting something from him, like he has to show that he loves you through his eyes, his kisses, his touch, or many physical activities directed towards you. Let's see... Have you ever tried to see something else from him? I mean, the way he pays attention to your words, or the way he cares about you (non physical activities)? That's because people have their own unique way to express their love. So, try to talk to him but not to demand him anything. Make sure you can syncronize your understanding about love between you and him, so you both can understand each other. My girlfriend for example, is not a type of person that can do romantic things (huging, making poetries, etc). She is a normal girl, too normal I think, but the way she wants to go with me (blind person) answers my doubt that she still loves me, on her way... But after she hears from me that I sometimes like being huged, being treated as romantic as possible, then she triies sometimes, hehehe! Overall, good luck for ou, and the best way to find out is to build a deep and serious communication between you and him, so you both can learn and understand each other...