Is having a baby a way to retain relationship between a couple?

@yenwie84 (1345)
Malaysia
July 15, 2008 6:15am CST
Is this really works? Once the wife who loves her husband so much has found out that her husband is no longer loving her,and she is trying to get a baby for her husband. Do you think the baby can help in retaining their relationship? Maybe it works for sometimes but after a while,maybe in few years later,their relationship will crack again. Do you agree with me? I don't think this is a good way to retain the relationship. If a relationship is really gone, I think is better for the both parties to just let go. If the wife tries to get a child,end up maybe the child who is innocent will become the victim in their marriage. What do you think about this? Please tell me more,thanks in advance.
6 responses
• United States
15 Jul 08
In my opinion, having a baby will just make it worse. It's just another layer of fear, anxiety, and doubt that will creep into the relationship. If it's not meant to be, there is NOTHING that anyone can do to save it.
@alpha7 (1910)
• France
15 Jul 08
Actually,this should have been the case but unfortunately its not because when the woman have the child she tends to concentrate more on her child rather than the father. This brings distance or grap between their relationships,although it does not last for a long time. Things will come back to normal after the child is well grown or stops brest feeding.
@rich4lot (14)
• United States
15 Jul 08
communication first. They should talk to each other to know what is the main problem before having a baby. Like one of the member here said, it might even break the relation and cause more harm then help it along.
@alori61 (345)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Having a baby is the apsolute wrong way to save a relationship. If anything having a child is usually the straw that breaks the relationship. Not only is it unfair to the child to be used in such a way, it is also not fair to force parenthood on an unwilling partner. Not to mention it also adds further strain to an already strained relationship. A child is forever, if the relationship is going south already a child will not save it.
@MizukiZHR (611)
• China
15 Jul 08
Hello,yenwie!I think the problem you say is very common now.Especially in my country,if a woman want to retain her relationship with her boyfriend or husband,the best method is having a baby.Because in my country,children are very important in a family and if a couple have their own children,their relationship will be easier to keep.But I don't know the situation in other countries,maybe in some countries it is not effective.
@chej18 (915)
• United States
15 Jul 08
In my opinion having a baby just retain a falling relationship is not going to work.You should try it in other why to make him fall inlove again but using innocent baby just for him to let stay.That is very insane decission that people can make.First of all difficult for the child and also for a mother if the father decided to leave and stop relationship.The victim will be the kid, and that is so trauma and painful to a kid if thier parent seperating or on a devorce situation. You should to understand what is the situation and talk it over why he fall out inlove to you.Mybe he is just confuse w/ something,because sometime people confused and they think they doesnt love the person anymore after that they give space to each other or they seperate for a while then they find out that they cannot be w/out to each other. I know this situation.Coz this happened to me.And he though that he doesnt love me anymore so i give him a chance to find himself.They said if you love somebody,you have to let him go and if he come back to you believe me that will last longer.Then he will learn something.I know its to difficult to understand how people fall out inlove but these things happened for a reason.So i just let it go.. Have a nice day! TC Greetings from Che!
• United States
15 Jul 08
No, in my opinion it's a bad idea. A new baby can put strain on the best relationship. Night feedings, crying, nervousness of being a new parent, etc. That kind of strain on an already rocky relationship could very well make things much worse between the couple.