Too attached ...

@leateagee (3667)
China
July 15, 2008 10:53am CST
...very difficult to let go and change. I am talking about people who are too attached to the objects that they have now and you are too attched that eventhough it is broken or ugly, you still wnat it or use it because it has something that makes you feel secure. I know someone who never let's go of her things eventhough they are broken already. She would keep it until her mom would scold her for piling up junks. Everything in life is temporary. For her, it is forever. She can't throw the things because she said, it has value to her and she has used it for sometime and she'll miss using it. This is my first time to encounter a person like this. From my point of view, she is afraid of change and new things. She is too attached to those things that gave her comfort and security. What about you? Are you like her? Or do you know someone who is like her? By the way, she said, she is the only one like this. Take care
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@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 08
I can't bear to part with my teddy bears, even though some of them have legs or eyes missing; they are either gifts from my parents, siblings or friends. Though broken or tattered, these bears remind me of my loved ones. However, I am not resistant to change; I can't afford to resist change, especially in my line of work.
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• United States
15 Jul 08
Hi lazeebee, I also keep my daughter dolls, stuff animals and things like that. It hurt to give them away, it always reminds me of that special day i gave it to both of them. Change I can do anytime, I can always except change, but not giving up my memories. The teddy bears are so cute, it's hard to give them away.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
15 Jul 08
Yeah, as we grow older and become more mature, change is a must so we have learned to accept that change happen sometime smore often than we expect it. For these attachment to things, I really have none. But text messages yes, i have a message as old as 2 years, but not to things like the ones you have. The memories these things have are really worth rememebering, so don't throw. Thank you so much for repsonding. Take care
15 Jul 08
Hi leateagee, I am just like her I hoard things my warobr is cram jam pack with clothes I don't wear, I always say I might wear someday, then my pots and pans I've cupboard full of them, some my mum gave, she is no longer with us so I keep them for keepsake.Now the big thing my husban wants to move but no! I am attached to my home I've spent so much money and time in and created my own garden so why must I leave and let someone destroy it I could go on and on. So the person you know is not the oly one Im here, Bless Tamara
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
15 Jul 08
Yes. She said there are stories in every little things that she has. From how much it is to the time they have spent together. She also has the attitude of yours, like maybe...maybe...maybe I will still need it. Don't worry I will tell her that she is not alone. Thank you so much for responding. take care
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@kaleegirl45 (1474)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Hi leateagee, I'm sort of that way, I keep all the thing my daughter made when they were in school, kindergarden, 1st thru 6 grade. I also keep what ever my grandkis leave behind. I have some of their clothing, which I will not get rid. I also sure that I have thing that I don't know i have. One time, my oldest daugther made a picture of rasins and other stuff, well the ants go to it, and she got upset because I told her I need to get rid of it. i told her I would take a picture and that would last ever longer. She was about 7 years olds. that made her very happy, I have it in one of my many albums. I'm that type of person. What about you?
@leateagee (3667)
• China
15 Jul 08
Really? Well, me and my mom had been moving from one place to the other so I didn't grow up having attachment to anything because I must let go of places and other things I can remember happy memories. Maybe my mom has what you have mentioned. Mothers i think are really that. Keeping the first things that are a memorable remembrance of their children. Thank you so much for responding. take care
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• United States
15 Jul 08
Leateagee, Once you become a mommy, you will also be keeping everything your baby has done at school. When I cut my daughters hair, for the first time, I kept a locket of her hair in her baby book. Birthday cards, Christmas cards, etc. Just wait and see, you will take picturess of your babies, of everything they do. And you will sit back when you get older and remember all those times. they are all good memories.
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
good day.. maybe she's just a ratpack or something . I tend to keep things that were given to me by people I love even though it's worn out or let say old. I don't keep things that are already broken that are ordinary or didn't have sentimental value though.
@underdogtoo (9601)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
I do not think at all about these things and it is not really an important item in my life. For all I know I might be one of those who never throws things away although nothing ever accumulates at my house because my wife is forever giving away stuff.
@subha12 (18463)
• India
16 Jul 08
i must confess sometimes i feel the same for something. but next moment when i think, its niot right, i can part away with that item.i think its really too much dependency. most of us do not like to change the things we were habituated with.
@neildc (16989)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Jul 08
I know a lot of people who is like her. And I am also one of them. There are really times that you can't let go a thing even if already over-used. One example for me is my wallet. I had it for a very long time. And it came to the point that it was really so ugly but I can't let go of it. Bad thing there is I lost it somewhere in a trip. KEEP SMILING = NEIL
• Lubbock, Texas
15 Jul 08
Thank you for starting this discussion. I used to move very often and had to get rid of things on a regular basis. I've been living in the same house now for 17 years, and I really need to take a closer look at what's piled up here and there. One thing I have is about 1/2 of my closet full of my youngest daughter's stuffed animals and dolls, and children's books, and "stuff" from her childhood. I had mentioned when she was in high school, giving some of her toys away and she just had a fit. Each thing she has was given to her on a special occasion. My children didn't get toys etc. just because. She went through every one of them and told me when she got them and who gave them to her and then added "when I have children I want to pass these down to them." How could I tear those memories away from her with reasoning like that? maybe someday she will have children and take her "keepsakes" out of my house. In the meantime they will remain.