The Twists & Turns Of Life - Can Anything Help Me?

United States
July 15, 2008 10:59pm CST
It seems that some of us are destined to be great, some of us are destined to be survivors, and some of us, apparently me, are destined to be life long losers. I have had a wonderful life, met great people in real life and online, and found some wonderful friends. It is with a heavy heart that I say goodbye to all of you for now, as I do not know if or when I will return. Life is always a sea of turbulent waves, some joyous and some completely disheartening. I left a tough marriage, I found my soul mate, I had five wonderful children. I found out today that there is nothing I can do to save my home, my children's home from being lost due to the rising costs of everything. I have 5 of them from two marriages, and it hurts like crazy that I cannot take care of them. Three of them will go to live with their biological father. Though he doesn't want them full time, he will take care of them the way they should be taken care of, at least with material things. Two of them will go with their father to another state to live with his family until he can get a job and a home for them there. My children are close, and their hearts will be broken for a time, but I believe that they will grow stronger from the change and it will be best for them eventually. However, I cannot find a way for myself to deal with this grief. I am losing my kids, my best friend, my husband, my lover and my soul mate all in one shot. I cannot find a way for us to stay together, my family cannot help and his will not help as long as he is with me. By sharing my situation, I hope that someone else will find strength, or know that they are not alone in this troubled time that we live in. If you are a believer, please pray for my children, as they will need every ounce of strength that they can find to deal with this newest obstacle in their lives. Thank you all for your wonderful responses to discussions, for taking the time to share with us the experiences you have had and continue to do so. You never know when your experience might help another!
3 responses
bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Jul 08
good greif! its like reading my past all over again, except for the part of losing your house and kids. i never had a house to lose until my kids were all grown. we lived in dumpy apartments, old rented shacks, etc. but i would not part with my kids. there must be some sort of help you can get. mine was raised halph the time on food stamps and aid. i know its terrible, but better than losing them!
dragonfly242
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
16 Jul 08
I'm so sad to hear of your troubles rantingqueen. Your plight has broken my heart,as a mother i can't imagine not having my kids with me. You are by no way a loser,you are going through a rough time is all. You now! life has a way of teaching us some hard lessons, and this may be the hardest lesson by far. When things like this happen we can do one of two things, lay down and be defeated, or stand up and fight, i truly believe you're a fighter. I believe with all my heart you'll get through this and be all the stronger because of it. I especially pray for your children, because i know this is really hard on them, being uprooted from their way of life can be hard on everyone. Please know that you are not alone, i'm with you in prayers. Please be strong dear friend, and hold your head up, and in these dark days remember that GOD will not fail you, trials come to make us strong i truly believe this. Sometimes he allows us to go through these things to draw us closer to him... so you have to believe in your heart that this too shall pass. {{{ HUGS }}}
ketybhagat
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
16 Jul 08
This is awful news. I know you must be broken inside, but what I cant understand is why your lover wont help out. The rising cost of living is scary and I can understand your state with 5 kids. Actually I stopped at one only because I knew in the long run I would not be able to feed so many mouths. With 5 kids, it must be a strain. Does your country have social security or some such thing on which you can fall back upon. Are the kids small ? If so, its going to be real hard for them with no mummy aroung. Just be brave and dont give up so easily. Im sure, there must be a way. Do you have a job and does your husband too have one. If you could just manage with a small house and bare necissities, could you not stay together. A loan from the bank or some such thing ? An advance from your office ? Wish there was some way you could stay together. I hope you find all the happiness in life soon with your family around. Do keep in touch as and when you can.