Need advice

United States
July 16, 2008 10:42am CST
My husband and our 2 children went on vacation last week. We went camping with 10 other people in key west. The last night just the adults went to duval street to check out the night life. After drinking a bit, one of my cousins husbands grabbed my husband and said he wanted to show you something. After about 15 min or so, I asked where they had gone someone said the name of the club. I was so over come by anger I jumped up and had absolutly no idea where I was going but I was going to find that place. I lucked up around the corner there it was . I walked in and looked around and towards the back there they were. My heart sunk, I couldnt move,I just stood there and watched as some perfect bodied woman shake her big twins at my husband. We have been married for 10 years we had a understanding of acceptable actions in our marriage at least I thought we had. I am heart broken because for 10 years I was the only woman he has seen in that way and cant help but feel as if he has cheated. I am trying so hard to get passed this but I have cried for 3 days. He says, they had stopped for a beer at a different bar and they went through another door and there they were. He says, he knew he was not supposed to be there and was telling the other fellow they had to leave. But, that doesnt make me feel better. Someone tell me I will get over this. I feel truely betrayed and disrespected.
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• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
Hello Cassieboo, I see you going trough a hard time. Don't put yourself on situation that going to made you even more worst. i believe you are a wonderful wife and mother for 2 children but your husband does not know hot to appreciate you as what you deserve. He will get the punishment that he deserve. For now you should think for your 2 lovely children. Their future are in your hand, you the one that going to shape it not your husband. Remember if you don't think for your 10 years marriage then think about your 2 children. hope you the best.
• United States
23 Jul 08
I think, before you can forgive him you need to sit down and have a real heart to heart with him. Dont let him talk at first. Ask him to be quiet whil you pour your heart out to hime and explain exactly how you feel, betrayed etc., explain yowant toget over it but you are having a rea hard time. Then let him explain, then talk it out. Dont let him put yor feelings aside. Its your feelings that have been hurt and need healing. Try praying together before and after talking. Good luck and God bless