how can i deal with my boyfriend

New Zealand
July 18, 2008 12:55am CST
I went to see him in town after he had finished work and he decided that he was going to take off with one of his mates and ditch his sister and me which i had a sore knee and he wouldn't let me give him a hug or anything and it hurt me when he didn't want to be near me. I dont know what to do
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• United States
18 Jul 08
The best thing is communication. Have a talk with him and tell him from the heart that it really hurt you. Don't start accusing him of anything though because guys usually hate that and won't want to dicuss or listen to anything you have to say as I have learned. It wasn't cool that he didn't even let you give him a hug, showing affection is really important in a relationship. He should have shown some concern that you were hurt. Try not to think about it too much and just wait until you have an opportunity to talk to him about it. I know your hurting but you will be able to evaluate the situation much better after a discussion. Maybe he had a certain reason that he acted that way (not trying to excuse his behavior) that you didn't know about.
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• New Zealand
18 Jul 08
thank you so much for the comment i will see what happends when he gets home
• United States
18 Jul 08
Your very welcome. I like helping people out and I hope it goes well for you.
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@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Hi Playboy 21, Welcome to Mylot! I think if I was you, I would have a talk with him and let him know that he hurt you and ask him i he still wants a girlfriend. I think if I got treated like this to much I would find someone else. I wouldnt stay with someone that wouldnt even give me a hug after going through all that trouble to see him. I mean maybe he had plans for the night, but he could at least acknowlege that you are there! ((((Hugs)))), Tianna
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• New Zealand
18 Jul 08
thank you so much i will let you know how things plan out later i will try and talk to him but no promises:(
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
29 Oct 08
I would talk to him. Tell him how much it hurt you that he wouldn't let you hug him or anything when he was around his mates. Tell him you and his sister went to see him and he should have spent some time with you guys. Admit you know he wanted to be with his friends and he could have just some time with you guys would have been nice since you did go out to see him after work.