Long distance relationships...any advice?

July 18, 2008 7:15am CST
I've been with my current boyfriend for 9 months now and we're very much in love. However, in September he goes to Germany for a year and I'm wondering how this will affect our relationship. We are both very keen for this to work out and have said that we will stay together and make the effort to phone and visit etc. I was just wondering though if anyone has any advice about how to make a long distance relationship work. Can anyone share their experiences?
3 responses
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
The distance that would separate you will ultimately be the test of time. By this I mean the foundation of your relationship.If you have been friends long before you got together, it would mean that you know each other to the very core.If you love and trust each other, a year wouldn't seem too long.Both of you should do your share of making the effort to communicate.It cannot be one-sided. In the end you will know whether you missed each other all the more or you've discovered things without the common denominator, meaning things you'd enjoy on your own.I believe prayers would help you a lot if you're really meant for each other.Good luck!
18 Jul 08
Yeah, it will be a very big test for our relationship, but hopefully one that we can pass! Thanks very much for the advice, and I hope I can be posting on here in a years time that we're still together!
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
Good luck to you and I'll say it again...Prayers work wonders! :)
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@karjyo (830)
• India
22 Jul 08
I have never been in a long distance relationship so i don't know much about it. I just know that if you really love somebody, nothing is difficult or impossible. You always have the time to meet or be in touch with each other.
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24 Jul 08
Thanks for your response!
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
The first few months after he goes to Germany would really be crucial for the both of you as this would be the first time that you will be far away from each other, am I right? What I mean by crucial is both of you are going to face another milestone in your relationship, for your part being the person who is left behind is quite difficult as you've been used to see him often I assume. On the other hand, it is much more difficult for him as he would be adjusting to a lot of things, new place, new people, new culture and most of all he would have to deal with the idea of being away from you. This will just be a test for your relationship of how strong your love is for each other. Don't think of the negative things that might happen but rather think of ways to keep your communication lines open, that is really the important thing to consider in order to keep your love for each other alive even if you're far from each other and of course a lot of prayers from both of you will surely help. c",)
18 Jul 08
Yes, this will be the first proper time we have been far away from each other. We've spent a few weeks here and there apart, but we've always still been in the same country so it hasn't been too bad. We know it'll be difficult but we really do want it to work out. Thanks for your advice, I'll definitely be following it!