how do you deal with jealousy??

United States
July 19, 2008 9:15pm CST
When things go wrong and when you feel like your bf/gf, wife or husband are having a contact or communication with their ex. How do you feel and when you are jealous, how do you deal with it?
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• United States
20 Jul 08
Although i may not appear to be i am a very jealous person, but at the same time i have never alowed it to control me.- I have been direct whenever i have had any issues concerning jealousy. The best thing to do is to communicate with your partner to confirm if your feeling is right you donĀ“t want to jump to any conclusions with out knowing the reality.( although ill tell you that the guys i have encountered tend to lie just to not cause problems)
• United States
20 Jul 08
So sometimes, its better that they are lying to you so u wont get hurt??
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• United States
20 Jul 08
Well if they are not doing anything wrong than y would they hide.. that is my question. The best thing of course is honesty bc in the end you are the one that comes out as the dummy or something
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Hi luisabete, My husband and her ex has a contact for 2 years because of my husband's voluntary support for her for 2 years...When I came in in the picture, he was still paying it and oftentimes, the ex will call to follow up the so called financial support.. I am not affected actually since I know it was my husband who asked for a divorce and I am confident that he loves me...That his past is past and I am sure, he doesn't like to go back there! When he is with you, that is the indication that he choose you now, but we also can't stop them to talk sometime for some reason! I don't really know your situation since the info you give is limited but to get over that feeling, just focus that their relationship is over and it will be ideal if he knows that you are not comfortable in their contact!
• United States
20 Jul 08
Thanks, that was a deep one :)
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
21 Jul 08
Jealousy is not something to be taken lightly of and if we dun handle it properly, things can get out of hand and totally out of control very easily.. WHat i will know is to confront my gf straight away to know what is really happening, to ease my mind.. And if the situation is reversed, i will tell her the truth too and wun hide anything, and also will not contact my ex at all, to prevent the same thing from happening again in the future ^_^