Do people really make friends on myLot?

@marina321 (4561)
July 21, 2008 5:09pm CST
Do people really make friends on myLot? Do people really make friends online? I do not take this virtual world too seriously as it is indeed afterall a virtual world and people can pretend to be someone they're not... Have you really made friends on myLot or acquaintances? Have you ever met these people, think some take the 'myLot friends' thing way too seriously and myLot on the whole.. Now, try not to shoot me down but I think of myLot as any other discussion board or forum I visit and contribute to often and there happens to be people that visit it as sometimes too and share similar interests. Yes, there's some people who's point of view I like, but there's also people who are good at writing So when some say they've really made friends here, it is quite extraordinary I find?! (Maybe I have not been here that long and do not spend enough time here to get to know people well enough or did I miss something that others have caught on?)
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@myklj999 (18207)
21 Jul 08
Some of (or actually most of) the friends I have here are "friends"; which is to say people that I kinda talk to that appear to share similar interests with me. But there are a few here (and on two other sites I visit) that I consider actual friends; though we haven't met (yet) we have gone a little deeper than just the average say hi/what do you think of/next discussion types. If people put on a false front, in so many discussions about so many issues, eventually they're going to trip themselves up and give away how they really are. I have real friends on another site that I've visited for almost 3 years; if I don't pop in at least once a week, they are liable to start e-mailing me to see if I am okay. And there are a couple here that I'm really getting close to that I hope to actually meet someday. So yes, I think if a person is careful and takes some time, they can make real friends here at myLot.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Hi myklj, I think you put that into perspective really well. You have sense a great sense of humor and a serious side. That's why you have so many real friends. I hope that I can be considered one too.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
21 Jul 08
I don't know yet marina. I've been here only two weeks. You have brought up a very realistic point of view. It is a virtual world that is true, but the people are real. It's not exactly like other forums I think in that (at least I hope)there is more thought and honesty in the discussions. I really shouldn't say that, I don't usually even bother with these type of forums. There was something different (yeah, besides the money)about this one. I think it is possible to make real friendships here, but that is totally up to the individual. I would just say for now that I myself am really enjoying the discussions a great deal and getting to know some of the people is really fun, at least that is my opinion.
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@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Here, I have made what I consider friends. I like it a lot. As to virtual...I actually met several of my other "virtual" friends in real life and we get together now regularly. In fact, I met my last bf online...we are tight.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
22 Jul 08
I believe in online friendship, on mylot just as much as any other forum or community. I think that you can really get to know someones ideas, thought processes, feelings, and priorities online. I also feel, however, that sometimes online friendships take a lot of work. It's easy to lose touch online... all it takes is not logging on for a while. While an offline friend would be able to come knock on your door, online friends don't have any way of contacting you beyond whatever information you have given them, and it's easy enough not to answer the phone or email. So I think while online friendships are real and can mean a lot to people, they also have to be cultivated carefully, and that doesn't always happen.
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@greysfreak (1385)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Well, I have made one friend since I've been here who I e-mail with, but I haven't been here that long, so who knows how many friends I will make. But generally speaking, throughout the years I have made quite a few friends online who ended up being closer than friends I met in "real life", and I have met I think about 4 online friends in real life, and 3 of those people I was really close to, and 2 of them I still consider close friends. I never had a bad experience meeting anyone from online, but it's easier to lose touch when you live in different areas, which is the case of all my online friends. The thing is, I typically have made my friends on message boards and we would talk on instant message or e-mail for a long time. And from my experience none of them were dishonest about who they were. I know there are people like that out there, but if you talk to someone long enough it really would be obvious, because if it was like a psycho or something they wouldn't continue to talk to you for like months and year/s, they would get bored, because those people would want to meet and be a weirdo. LOL So yea, it comes down to being smart. But yes, I totally believe in online friends! I have an easier time meeting friends online than in real life, because it allows you to find people with similar interests and views. In real life you can't filter out people like that.
@inia_54 (176)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 08
I have not made friends ever since I join MyLot. However, so far I have contributed more than 100 responses. In other words I have been incontact with more than 100 people. Each of them has read my views. May be some like what I had posted. Maybe some people don't. But I notice when start a new discussions, not many people respond. Well never mind. Maybe my topics not interesting enough. Or may be it is a sign I am not yet accepted as a friend in MyLot amongst the regular MyLotters?
• India
22 Jul 08
i feel that the people donot be freinds on mylot until and unless they meet each other.there are other platforms on the net which are more popular on the net on which we can make freinds.its great to have freinds if they are of ur type means they understand each others.
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Yes, I meet friends here in mylot just online. We did not meet yet in person but I would be interested to meet them personally. I have lots of enjoyable discussions with people here. There are some who had helped me a lot with their ideas. I like this community. Yes, there are real good people here..
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
14 Sep 08
Yes, people really do make friends on My Lot. I have made friends from many different countries. I hope that one day I will meet up with some of My Lot friends. It would be easy for me to arrange to meet the My Lot friends I have in my area of my home country. Some of them live in countries near the one I live in. My home country is quite small by international standards. I like it when I can build up a picture of a person in my mind like they say they say their country, their age and their gender. My of the friends I have on My Lot have similar interests as me to different topics so that is great. I hope that you are having a lovely time on My Lot.
@Bobbysox (224)
14 Sep 08
I belong to loads of different sites Marina and ive never yet made wot I would call a friend ,a one person who I could say I really know well,I may know the names well,and miss the names if they suddenly vanish,but the internet is as lonely as the world Marina,its just a place to air you views,to express yourself,to clear the air and above all to have a good time and enjoy what time you spend using the internet.As you say life can become complicated and there is no way you could ever take much very seriously on the internet,there are lots of peeps who love to laugh and joke,and that really is partially what makes the net so funny at times.
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
14 Sep 08
I have made some virtual friends here but up till now we have never met.
@bunnybon7 (37402)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Jul 08
i've made some real friends online in other sites. but havent been on mylot long enough to make any thing but virtual friends.
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Making friends really all depends on you. If you're the kind who likes friends then you should have no difficulty making friends online or offline. I don't make friends easily and I prefer not to be burdened by people so I take people on a day to day basis. I try to help whenever I can, is that friendly? I don't demand that they give me their time, is that friendly or I don't care enough for them? My so-called friends are not obliged to reciprocate anything I do for them, is that good or will they walk all over me? This friend business really is pretty good and I have no complaints.
• India
22 Jul 08
As for as my experience goes here in mylot friends are made to personal message one another to talk about any money making program or for the sake of referrals for their any programs so it goes like that but friends must contact each other and stay connected
• China
22 Jul 08
I have been here not long, and I don't know if I can make a friend here, but I am very sure that we can make friends on the internet, even it's a virtual world, and I have made many close friends on line. At the beginning, I didn't believe I could make real friends in this virtual world either, so I chatted with others very carefully. But gradually I found, if we have the same topic and are both serious at it, we can make a friend, and if we are both willing to get close to the person with the same topic, then we are possible to become close friends.
@youless (93576)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Jul 08
I think so. I always think that the online friends are as well as the real friends. As long as they are sincere and honest, they can be my good friends. In fact I have made some good friends here and that's what I earn from Mylot:) I love China
• United States
22 Jul 08
You have to realize that yes there are going to be some that come online that will be giving you descriptions of themselves and what they look like and how they live falsely. But there are also some who will be honest with you. That is just the way of the internet. A person just has to be careful is all. I would love to meet some of the people on mylot. I think it would be a lot of fun.