How do you get over being left out?
July 21, 2008 9:29pm CST
Whether you're suddenly left out of the clique or have been struggling to make friends all along, it's difficult to watch others having fun when you're not part of it. Consider these ways to get over the sadness to make new friends or be happy by yourself until you do. 1.Discover the root of the problem. Ask around to see if a friend is leaving you out because of something you allegedly said or did, then fix the situation with a blunt conversation. If your friends simply love getting a rise out of you, ignore them or move on instead of repeatedly trying to tag along. If this is just a phase, they'll come around. If it's not, you're better off without them. 2.Make a new friend. Join a club, take a class at a recreation center or volunteer at for a local charity to meet other kids who share the same interests. Be friendly (but not pushy) to find out more about them and discover someone you're compatible with. 3.Find a hobby or favorite class to keep busy and build your self-esteem. Learn to play a musical instrument, paint or take up photography, for example. Redecorate your room or help your parents around the house. 4. Hang out with your family. Your parents, brothers and sisters love you unconditionally and can be great company in the evenings and weekends. If a sibling goes to your school, ask if you can eat lunch together until you've got friends to sit with again. 5.Write in a journal or talk to a parent, sibling or counselor to express your loneliness. Bottling the sadness up can make it worse.
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