Because who said so?
By fafinette79
@fafinette79 (943)
United States
July 23, 2008 6:27pm CST
If a friend of yours stops talking to you because someone else told them to, and then that friend came back and wanted to begin again as if nothing ever happened, would you let it go?
Here's the situation:I have (or had) a friend. This friend is married but seeing another person as if that person was their spouse. Because this other person didn't want me to go back to the actual spouse, they advised my supposed friend to stop talking to me and hanging out with me. And thus, for almost a month, I lost my friend.
I know what you're thinking; how did I find out. Well that's another story.
Here's the situation:I have (or had) a friend. This friend is married but seeing another person as if that person was their spouse. Because this other person didn't want me to go back to the actual spouse, they advised my supposed friend to stop talking to me and hanging out with me. And thus, for almost a month, I lost my friend.
I know what you're thinking; how did I find out. Well that's another story.1 person likes this
3 responses
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I know who you are talking about is she still seeing the person.. She said that she isn't talking that guy that i think you are talking about...
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
24 Jul 08
That hurts! Even though I feel like I'm better without the BS, it still hurts. The bad thing is that she had the nerve to say that it was my problem and I was doing something wrong.
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
24 Jul 08
What hurt.. is she still seeing the guy that i think you are talking about.. I don't know if i am thinking about that right person.. But i am pretty sure that i know who you are talking about. Are you talking about that night that you guys went out (one of the last times that you guys wents out) and yall we with mat the guy that i think you are talking about...
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Thing is a true friend wouldn't of allowed someone to tell them not to talk to their friend. If your friend was or is having an affair what makes them think you are or would be the only one that knows. These things have away of getting out no matter what. Depends on how close you were. I have let things like that go and talked to them but it's like this do it to me once okay forgiven you can't help it if you had a stupid moment and cheated on your spouse and listened t the idiot you were cheating with tell you who you can and can not talk to ya I forgive you. Do it again just don't ask cuz the answer is no!
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@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
24 Jul 08
You hit the nail on the head with this one. This person was cheating, and the spouse found out.
I would've forgiven my so-called friend, but this isn't the first time. I've caught this person in many lies and even found out that this person has talked bad about me.
I guess it's over......I'm still thinking about this causal friend thing, but I think it is best to think more about me than anyone else.
I would've forgiven my so-called friend, but this isn't the first time. I've caught this person in many lies and even found out that this person has talked bad about me.
I guess it's over......I'm still thinking about this causal friend thing, but I think it is best to think more about me than anyone else.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
23 Jul 08
I wouls have to really think about it, I think I would just have them as a casual friend if there is such a thing...I have been let down by a few of my friends of late so I came to the conclusion I am just going to treat them as one of many and not have any one or two special friends...sad but that seems to be the way of the friendship thing these days...
@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I agree with you! A casual friend is something I never thought about. It would be one of those friends that I only hang out with or talk to when I have nothing better to do. I think this would be better for me.
I've discovered that I must think more about myself and less about others from this experience. It's harsh, but it's life.
I've discovered that I must think more about myself and less about others from this experience. It's harsh, but it's life. 