Father kissing daughter's lips, is it wrong?

Philippines
July 23, 2008 10:55pm CST
I never remember my father kissing us in the lips or perhaps he did when I am still a baby. This question has been raised during a one day retreat regarding the situation of an abused and abandon woman nowadays in the society. One of them says that you can't even trust your own relatives even your brothers and fathers. They even put an emphasis that it's not a good view or picture when a father kiss a daughters' lips. Well of course we are aware knowing what happens now in the sorroundings but do this things have to be a big deal? Unless, unless, hmm I guess you know what I want to say...But anyway, do you think this scenario is wrong?
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30 responses
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
Hmmm i think this is a broad situation. We may address this issue in different angle. If the fathers only do it out of love for a daughter well nothing is wrong bu since nowadays abuse children are so typical and well spread, we can't blame people to think badly of this. If looking to this issue in another angle, in the perspective of the people this is very unusual since this kind of
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
sorry got cut off.. I accidentally hit the send button. anyway, this is unusual for other families since this kind of gesture has a lot of meaning that is why most fathers avoid or don't do this kind of caring. But if looking to a kids perspective, depends on her concept what is a father and what does she truly felt about the gesture. Unless all of this possibilities is negative, and the father has an ulterior motive then it is really wrong and needs action.
• Singapore
24 Jul 08
In my opinion, it is wrong to kiss in lips (except your wife, lover or gf). To express the love and affection towards his daughter, a father can kiss on head, forehead, cheeks or hand. But kissing in lips is awkward. Sorry, if I am wrong in others opinion. It is my opinion only. Anyway It is good discussion started by sweetbarbie22!!! Even it corrects the behaviour of one father, it is a GREAT success of this discussion.
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
thank you..hehehhe, that's how I weigh things also, maybe as a little kid but when you grew up, I guess, it's not good to see at all.
• United States
11 Jan 11
I don't know. A peck on the lips isn't a "kiss" in the way it's a bad thing and some people express feelings that way. Now a big, gross sloppy kiss I'd have to wonder what's going on. I do think that after a certain age the kids could just do with a kiss on the cheek though, or a hug is even better.
@marguicha (44207)
• Chile
11 Jan 11
I dont think fathers or mothers (or anyone but your spouse for that matter) should kiss someone in the lips. I am picky and I think it is a sure way of transmiting germs. Besides, in many culture it is not well seen.
@jstaubin (423)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I was raised that a father did not kiss his daughter on the lips. No one ever explained why it was wrong but they said it was. So now I am uncomfortable withit.
• Chile
25 Jul 08
I don´t think it is wrong, some people do that, but I don´t like it too much, I think there are other ways to express something to your relatives!!
• Malaysia
25 Jul 08
It depends. Whether it is a kiss of love or kiss of lust. I think it is ok anyway if it doesnt leads further to incest or watever.
@_sketch_ (5713)
• United States
24 Jul 08
When the daughter is really little, I think that it's ok, but after a certain age it starts to be creepy. I dont know if it's wrong. I dont kiss either of my parents anymore, not even on the cheek. I think that some people are just more touchy than others.
@metschica25 (5411)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Hi , I think it depends on the kind of kiss it is . Gosh , if it is romantic then that is so wrong .My gram and pap use to greet with small hugs and a kiss on the lips, but it was just a peck . I think it depends on the person and if they feel comfy .
@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I think, father should hug and kiss on the check not on the lips when their daughters are already grown up. Even if there's nothing wrong with it but knowing that they are already grown up and there are many happenings in the society today linking the father and daughter abused. it is not a good picture to see.Just my opinion.
24 Jul 08
I think it depends on the context of the situation. Howeer as I rew up with little physical affection from my father I would find it very strange. I guess it is okay with small children but not when the daughter is older. It is only wrong if the daughter feels uncomfortable. Just a peck on the lips is not wrong at all, just outside of my personal comfort zone.
@underdogtoo (9606)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
I feel weird kissing anyone in the lips who was not my wife or lover. Kissing is very intimate and I don't feel comfortable doing that. I don't have daughters but I kiss babies on the cheek and my nieces kiss my cheek and not the other way around.
@austere (2819)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
i dont think kissing on the lips is a fatherly kiss at all. you can hug your daughter, kiss on the head or cheek, tap the shoulder, and things like that but never should it be kissing on the lips. thinking about feels awkward and it's a very crazy crazy thing for a father to do. i am 22 years old, and i just dont want to entertain the idea that my father would kiss me in the lips...no, i dont think it's a good picture at all. never.
@earnnings (1300)
• India
24 Jul 08
hi frn it's not wrong he tell some age ,his loving her daughter it's not a wrong in my dictionary .. it is a part of parent's love thast's it
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
24 Jul 08
depend in wich state (country) you leaved, in Italy, where i'm is not normal, in USA o Germany there's nothing bad, is cultural fact...naturally depend of wich kind of kiss..for sure not with tongue!! :) Nun
• India
24 Jul 08
hi friend, i think it again depends as many of mylotter has said that. it depends on the country culture and the age of doughter. in india i do don't think any parent do kiss to teenage doughter in lips. it is wrong here there is a limit of every relationship.
@AshleyHasan (1025)
• India
24 Jul 08
If you are a baby then there is nothing wrong to do that, but if the child is grown up I think that is not correct.
• China
24 Jul 08
I think there is two reasons to explain this question.Firstly,people in different countries have different culture,chinese parents are always choose to smile with their girls and boys or touch their head.They used to express feeling by words not by acting.Secondly,how old of the daughter is also important,no one will mind a father kissing his cute little daughter for love. In my mind,father can kiss daughter's cheek,forehead or hand,but not kissing on lips.Only lovers will kiss on lips to express their sweet love.
@joyadalia (1410)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
My family is a close knit family and kissing on the lips is not regarded as something with a double meaning or malice. But I can understand the sentiment of the women in that retreat since you were focused on that topic. I think that such as action depends upon the context or upon the background of the family. A family who was never close will be very suspicious if such an act is done in the family, but a family that was used to closeness and had been practicing kissing on the lips since time immemorial will never regard it as wrong. We should not generalize that an act is evil or good by just looking at the act alone. It would be better if we look at what surrounds it ;O)
@laglen (19783)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I do not see a problem. Can a mother kiss her son? My father still kisses me and I can tell you there has NEVER been any abuse there. My daughter's dad kisses her on the lips. Maybe it is a cultural thing or maybe it is a family thing. I don't see an issue.