can you control who you fall in love with?

@jhl930 (3605)
United States
July 27, 2008 4:00pm CST
i have heard some people say that you can't control who you fall for because it just happens you can't say that i am going to fall in love with this person and not this one...but then again i have heard a few people who say that they aren't going to let themselves fall for someone because they just don't want to get into that relationship so i was just wondering, because i am kind of torn honestly, sometimes i think that you can't really control that and then other times i think that you might be able to if you see that the relationship isn't going to work out because why would you want to put yourself through all of that if its not going to work i was just wondering what all of you think about it, do you think that you can control that or do you think that you can't control it because its just something that will either happen or not happen...thanks for taking the time out of your day to read my discussion and i hope that you all have a great day!
2 responses
@relundad (2311)
• United States
27 Jul 08
When it comes to a mate I absolutely think that you have some control over the matter. First of all you decide who you associate yourself with. It is only through spending time with people that you are compatiable with that you fall in love. If and when I meet someone and I find that I have more dislikes than likes, then I move on. If we dont get along, I move on. Even if I have feelings for the person or even if I love the person, doesn't mean that you can have a romantic relationship with them. I accept that and move on. You can still love a person and not be in a romantic relationship. Alot of people say you can't control, this but I look at it no different than going to the mall and picking up a pair of jeans that don't fit. You aren't gonna keep the small or large jeans, you take them back and look for the size that fits. You have the choice of who you spend your life or period of your life with. Its up to me.
@ishralene09 (2260)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
I don't think you could control that. It just happens like magic. There are some points in my life that I've tried to convince myself, hey, i love her. I want to be with her. And it doesn't work out. And then it gets repeated. I met my girlfriend in college, and realized I'm falling for her on the third year. Now I finally have her, and everything's working fine. We just need to maintain our degree of communication and affection. I hope she's the one, because if I went out of this relationship I might fall on the wrong one again. But eventually it will get repeated again and again and again. It's much better to be settled now than wait another eternity again.