i need some help!

@jhl930 (3607)
United States
July 27, 2008 7:57pm CST
ok as you have all read before you know my situation and its like "we" always get put behind everyone else and she can never tell anyone else no on what they want to do or whatever the case may be, but when i ask for something or to do something its always no...like the other night we were on the phone with each other and her sister was in her room and her brother wasn't at home he was gone for the night i think and she laid down in bed and i was like can you go to your brothers room so we can have some privacy(i know the phones not that great but its better than nothing)and she said no i don't feel like moving..and its literally 20 steps away or so...and i was like ok...and we just continued talking but her brother can ask her to go to sonics or mcdonalds at 12 at night when shes in bed and she says yes...so what do you think i should do...i want to be in the relationship but at the same time i don't like being put last and it always happens...i don't know what else to do..what do you think because i have tried to talk and that doesn't do any good! thanks for taking the time to read my discussions and i hope that you all have a great day!
2 responses
@subha12 (18472)
• India
28 Jul 08
it is somethingh that she may be usual in acting this way. are you not misunderstanding her? make it sure. i have also seen some people never seem to listen to certain people and they think they can just ignore them.have atalk with her what is her problem actually.if you have alreadt talked with her, then also try to find out why you are not posing as most important in her life.
• United States
28 Jul 08
Well the relationship should be 50-50 and if it is unleveled and stays that way after you have directed the issue to her and it doesn´t change, you might not be in the best relationship ever. I know that when i was with my ex i always did everything and pushed everything to make him happy failing to realize he did the opposite. Well ever person is different maybe she has another form of way of showing that she cares. From what you wrote it sounds outrageous that she wouldn´t walk the extra 20 steps to the next room yet take her brother to a fast food rest. is closer.. wow. that is something else. I guess you need to reevaluate your relationship depending on how long its been, how are other things,and etc. You will recieve alot of advice but only you know how your relationship is roundly.Wish you the best