Frustrated tonight.

@capirani (2745)
United States
July 28, 2008 9:25pm CST
For all of you who are disabled in one way or another, especially if the disability is fairly new, I have a question. What do you do when you are just so tired of having to find someone to help you do things you used to be able to do for yourself? I mean, now I have to pay someone to do things for me like the general housecleaning. There are other issues because of where I live and that I don't have my own laundry facility, so my daughter has to come and get my laundry and take it to her house, then bring it back to me. All the things I used to do like the deep cleaning, rearranging my own furniture, organizing and sorting through things to find out what I want to keep or get rid of, and all the simple things we all take for granted when we are able to do them, now just frustrate me because I have to pay someone to come do it for me. That means I have to be acceptable to their schedule and it doesn't always work for me because of my part time work schedule. My work schedule conflicts with my daughter's schedule with her baby a lot of the time. So, now that I have poured out my frustrations tonight, how do you cope with things like this if you are disabled? I live alone so that makes it that much worse. I don't like my job, but I am blessed to have it because I can work from the comfort of my own home and it is part time. I could not afford to go without this job without some other income to take its place because my disability is not enough to live on. Up until today I had hopes of getting to move where it is air conditioned and where I have laundry facility I can use myself. But that deal fell through. That is a big part of the frustrations tonight.
2 responses
• China
29 Jul 08
As you said,you're blessed to have it.Whether you a disabled man or not,you have an access to obtain the high standards of living.That the key is how to get on with yourlife ,isn't it? Ever since I started my study at the primary school,the teachers told me that attitude can make everything very differently.So why don't you make u life better through changing another views? I suggest you have a big smile in the mirror when getting up and appriciate beautiful star before going to bed.Insist it,you can make a diffrence with your time.
@capirani (2745)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I am not a man, first of all. Secondly, most of the time I have a positive outlook. Tonight I am just feeling down and need to tell how I feel to someone and that happens to be here on mylot. I can attest that you are correct in keeping a positive attitude. It makes a huge difference. But face it, we are all human and we can't be positive 100% of the time. Sometimes things just pile up on you and today is one of those times. In fact, this whole summer so far has been like that because of the heat and I have no option of being cooled off here where I live. It is bad for my health physically and emotionally. The thought that I was going to get to move out of this place was helping me keep positive. That bubble got busted today, so I am having an extra hard time tonight. And, if you look at my picture, I am wondering if I look like a man for you to suggest that I might be. Now I have a question for you? Are you disabled? This discussion was mostly geared to those who are disabled and what they do to cope. What I want is suggestions born from experience. Thanks.
• United States
29 Jul 08
i am sorry for your situation. i've seen my mother go thru that and i felt bad for her. slowly you will adjust to some of it. not all but some. you just have to inch your way along thru the day and from one day to the next. try to keep your mind on good things and try not to dwell on your problems. i know it's not easy. it's like your problems are screaming at you and dominate your thots. i will pray for you that God will help you in your situation. to better days.
@capirani (2745)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Thank you.