how do i get this point across?
July 29, 2008 2:15pm CST
there is a friend of mine and she doesn't have a easy time finding guys, i don't know what the reason is exactly, i mean shes kind of loud but thats just her though she tries to be helpful for the most part and tries not to be any trouble, and she goes to lengths to try and get guys that women shouldn't go to...i mean i have "been with"this one girl for five months and i have told her never to "do anything" to just please me that shes uncomfortable with and that i wouldn't rush her to "do things" before she was ready...and the friend has "done things" and said that she would "do things" to guys just to get the attention...and then after she does those things the guy doesn't want anything to do with her anymore...and she doesn't understand why i and i was like just have the guy respect you and if he wants to be with you bad enough and he cares about you he wont push you into things...but shes not getting to not just put all that out there to get a guys attention...how do i get the point across...thanks for taking the time to read my discussion and i hope that you all have a great day!
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30 Jul 08
From what I've read she is going about this all the wrong way..as you already pointed out...She is giving the guy the impression that she is willing to do anything to have a boyfriend...Some guys like that scenario and could easily take advantage of her...yet other guys, when they hear her say this, will shy away because it seems that she is forcing herself on the guy, and he feels trapped right away...Not a good situation to put someone in... She just needs to relax and just be herself.... All you can do it let her know exactly how you feel and leave it at that....She is going to do what she wants, it seems, anyway...Eventually she will find herself having less and less friends because of it..