My sister-in-law is pregnant...should I be excited?

United States
July 29, 2008 2:41pm CST
She is only 21. Her boyfriend and her live with my father-in-law. She works but not quite 40 hours a week. He works but his work is seasonal somewhat. Neither have been to college (she went one day and dropped out). They are both great with my kids, it is just hard for me to be excited for them. I fear that my in-laws will end up raising the child.
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 08
An accident I guess. You don't have to be excited if you really don't, but at least give them some support. I believe she's been through a hard time, but since she's really working on it, I think you should help her. And how was your husband's reaction? She's his sister right?
• United States
29 Jul 08
Accident, of course. This is actually my wife's sister who is pregnant and I took it better than my wife. She just knows how selfish and irresponsible her sister is at times. Her sister has had some rough times, so maybe my wife and I raising her children will be a good example to her.
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 08
i am so sorry but... well. do what she does, i think it is better to be a little bit selfish for someone who can even take care about themselves. If you really that care you can support them but they don't have to know it. teach them how to responsible of what they did
• United States
30 Jul 08
We hope to show them by example and not preaching how to be good parents
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
10 Aug 08
I think that you should be excited because a baby being born is always a joyous occasion and I can understand your concern but the best thing to do is probably help them whenever possible and try to make sure that your inlaws do not try to take over the responsibilities of the child,and other than just let them know that you care for them and that you will care for the child as well.
• United States
11 Aug 08
I agree that a child being born is a joyous occasion. They have matured a ton in the last few weeks since finding out. They plan to get married, are saving money, etc. So, this might be a great thing for them after all
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• United States
11 Aug 08
I am glad to hear that they have matured and that they are saving money and planning on getting married,and I am sure they will do fine,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting my friend.
• Brazil
29 Jul 08
be excited there is a new life comming to the family i believe this is a good thing to happens to one family and i hope soon enough i could have my own =p someone to kid with ME.. if someone ask, YES kid with ME! why the hell i will kid with a baby if they can kid with ME xD i'm was a baby once, no? thanks, Scorpionok.
• United States
29 Jul 08
Yes we will be excited. If nothing else, it fills my wife's baby kick so she won't want another:)
29 Jul 08
Even if you have fears about the outcome,just show them that you are there for them,maybe encourage them to go to ante natal classes together and if you have children ask them to look after yours it will be good practise for them,often we have fear of something happening,and the outcome is good,so do not get disheartened before the pregnancy has even hardly gone past kick off.
• United States
29 Jul 08
I agree. I have not been negative or anything to them. They are great with my kids, but both seem a little too selfish at this point in their lives to be parents. However, kids can change a lot of things. Hopefully we can encourage and be examples for them.